Is it ok to leave baby with grandparents to go on honeymoon?

My parents did this when I was seven months old. Genuinely, it came up a lot in therapy, and I would see it has having a big impact on my relationship with my mother.

They went away once when you were 7 months old and it came up in therapy.....?

My parents did this when I was seven months old. Genuinely, it came up a lot in therapy, and I would see it has having a big impact on my relationship with my mother.

Although you could argue that this was because I had the kind of mother who thought it was OK to leave a child for two weeks when they were that age.

Easier to leave at that age than when older

Yes it's fine. As long as GPS are happy.

Is it Orlando where you’re going? Costs have shot up and I think you might be looking at another couple of grand for food and drink for that length of that time. I’d pay to take the baby (which I suspect will be minimal) and just have a chill out Florida holiday.

An 11 month old baby is quite a lot for others to cope with so although I think baby will be ok, it’s a bit unfair on your parents. (Due to serious illness I had my baby grandson to stay frequently and it was hard going. And I’m a young , healthy, energetic granny!). Your parents may well change their mind after their first overnight.

Can you change the booking to something shorter?

We got married when our little one was a year and just went for two nights/three days, I couldn’t have convinced myself to relax and enjoy it if it was anymore. The plan was then to go a big family holiday somewhere nice after it but we haven’t done it yet 🙈

Not a chance. Imagine worst case scenarios and you are on a different continent to your 11 month old child? Not to mention that you are a family now, why can't you price up to take them? Or go for less time if you can get money back off hotels? Or just accept the higher cost and work out a way to cover it over time.

A weekend maybe, but 18 days?

I think it's fine to leave baby with trusted grandparents, but for me 18 days would be way too long. My children are much much older and I still wouldn't leave them for that long.

Sorry mine was to the poster who said ‘baby will be fine.’

How would you know though? Babies (and all children) don’t necessarily express a sense of abandonment in east to read ways. He may well believe that you are never coming back.

We have holidayed several times without the kids leaving them with my mum, absolutely no concerns and never "ached" for them. That said, the first time we did it youngest was 15 months old and it was 10 days, max we've gone away is 10 days and only on a couple of occasions. It's completely personal of course, I wouldn't judge, but even I (not the most maternal of people as you may be able to tell!) think 18 days with an 11 month deal old is quite long. Personally I'd save money making it a shorter break.

No wonder UK breastfeeding rates are some of the lowest in the world.

Mine is 15m and there's no way I would leave her. We've postponed her honeymoon until she'll be three! Even then only going for 5 nights.

I did it when my ds was 13 months. He even left the country to stay with my parents in Ireland! The only issue was that when I returned he was no longer interested in breastfeeding so it ended that part if our relationship.

He had a blast with my parents and the cousins he doesn't see often. He was so pleased to see us when he returned. He was slightly clingy initially but it didn't last very long.

It's a long time to be so far away from a very small baby. I wouldn't do it. Sorry OP.

18 days?! I wouldn’t go on a 3 week holiday without my 11 year old, and definitely not an 11 month old.

It’s too long. Take them or don’t go.

They're under 2 - it can’t cost that much to add them on?

How much to add?

As the baby’s under 2 it shouldn’t cost much at all to add them to the booking.

18days is a whopping 3% of an 18mth olds life… I personally couldn’t.

I would absolutely go. Yes 18 days is a long time but he won't remember, however you may struggle as time goes on. We went away for 3 days when our daughter was 10 weeks old and everyone thought we were mad lol.

I still feel guilty about leaving my (now almost 17 year old) dd when she was 6 months old for a hen weekend.

I left her with family she knew extremely well but she missed me.

Honestly, call me old fashioned but if you have a baby already, do you really need a honeymoon? Surely it's just a holiday? And no, I wouldn't.

Honestly no I wouldn't go for 18 days. A long weekend yes, but 18 days is so long and your poor baby will wonder where you are. I wouldn't even be able to contemplate it.

Absolutely not ok to leave a baby for 18 days. The fact that you even need to ask implies you’re a very different parent than me, so I won’t give you the reasons why it’s not ok, as you probably won’t agree

Change it for a short duration and/or take him with you. 18 days is a lifetime when they are small.

Personally, no I absolutely wouldn't.