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Pretty, younger, au pairs/live in nannies...

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Monkeytrousers · 25/01/2008 21:00

Okay, lighthearted question;

I just don't get this. I know not all of them are Scandinavian or Balkan hotties, but a fair proportion are...I'm just wondering, why would you do it to yourself..and your poor partner?

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MightyMoosh · 29/01/2008 21:07

Have to laugh at the bit in there about an obese au pair eating you out of house and home! As a big big nanny I cost next to nowt as I buy me own grub!

I was once asked to send a photo after appying to a position on gumtree- never heard from them again!

HarrietTheSpy · 29/01/2008 19:43

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Loved the comment about the "slave wages" - many of the candidates who applied the last two times I was looking for a nanny were much more suitable for a classical au pair ie supervised type role. Had some babysitting experience, but like years ago - and wanted £90 per day net.

Squiffy · 29/01/2008 11:06

We had an amazing swede once...

My DH thought all his christmasses had come at once.

The AP thought everyone over 30 were 'dirty old men' or 'past it' and she clearly hadn't a clue that my DH (and my 70 year old dad, and my brothers, and the builders) clocked her figure and outfits all the time.

I never had a moments worry

Would be much more concerned about a frumpy AP who couldn't attract men her own age and was desperate for lurve.

yogimum · 27/01/2008 18:37

I remember a nanny who was shagging her boss and would often turn up in expensive clothes that belonged to the wife.

My boss at the time would ask me to tell my friends when they came over to swim to change in the bathroom not around the pool. Her dh had a sudden interest in gardening.

motherinferior · 27/01/2008 18:24

I'm with Bink (I usually am). A cheerily gorgeous young thing would cheer up Mr Inferior yet be highly unlikely to fall for his many charms (unless she was a nice young Bengali girl with a bit of a daddy-fixation ).

carmenelectra · 27/01/2008 18:21

Agree monkey!Sounds like you and I are the only ones who wouldnt want a fit nanny

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Monkeytrousers · 27/01/2008 17:08

Au pairs might want older men with status and money - kids are probably not a bit deal seeing as most don;t get/want full custordy anyway.

How else do you explain Donald Trumps success with younger women - of Snoop Dogs? Or any man who could give them leave to stay longer??

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carmenelectra · 27/01/2008 12:16

If i did want a nanny, then id have you , Les!

WanderingTrolley · 27/01/2008 12:13

I never had any trouble finding work as a live in nanny when I was a twentysomething.

But then I do look quite a lot like Les Dawson.

carmenelectra · 27/01/2008 12:05

Im sure most au pairs wouldnt want an old git with kids. And i know men also fancy ugly birds, but they are even more likely to fancy a pretty girl! However, i know for a fact, that my dp would not fancy an ugly girl. I know people have affairs with all sorts of people, but he wouldnt be attracted to her in the first place.

NKF · 27/01/2008 12:00

Do pretty au pairs want old men with kids? And men fancy ugly women too. Men fancy women.

carmenelectra · 27/01/2008 11:57

Monkeytrousers, Thats exactly what my dp said! Of course most men would say they dont fancy them so as not to hurt your feelings!

I know the kind of women my dp finds attractive so i would know he was lying anyway. To be fair though, he often says if someone is good looking , sexy etc, usually people on the telly though, so no threat! Just as i am always saying Brad Pitt, Frank Lampard etc etc are lovely!

And i dont buy it when blokes say they dont fancy Page 3 girls or the top 100 sexy girls in FHM! Blokes might pretend they dont like that type of woman cos its what their partner wants to hear, but i would think most men would find someone like that more attractive than plain Jane type. I think they are pretty myself, so why wouldnt a amn?!

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Monkeytrousers · 27/01/2008 10:25

Well a partner might say he wouldn't fancy a pretty young thing in his house, but that doesn't mean he really didn't fancy them. I think it would be very unusual for a bloke not to fancy them.

If there is one in your house who you do fancy, you're going to have to lie about it aren't you??

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ingles2 · 26/01/2008 22:55

Oh yes...

blueshoes · 26/01/2008 22:53

ingles, . Lucky escape for me, then

ingles2 · 26/01/2008 22:45

(looks right, then left, checking for Nannynick...)
(whispers...)
You don't want a male AP blueshoes, they're rubbish!
(sidles out after making awful sweeping statement...)

blueshoes · 26/01/2008 22:19

Conversely, dh will not let me consider a male aupair, even though I was toying with the idea for a bit ...

carmenelectra · 26/01/2008 22:02

No offence taken snappy. Dp is not a flirtatious bloke in the slightest, not a 'jack the lad' type or anything like that. He is only human and im not saying he would have an affair or anything but if a nanny was pretty then of course he would find her attractive. Just as i might find a young bloke attractive. I wouldnt feel comfortable with that.

ok that happens everyday, but i wouldnt want someone else of the opposite sex living with us!

nortynamechanger · 26/01/2008 21:58

The 2 I miss the most were the best looking of the lot!

carmenelectra · 26/01/2008 21:57

DP only has eyes for me and im not terribly jealous but i would not want a pretty young girl living with us! No way!

SnappyLaGore · 26/01/2008 21:56

no offense carmenelectra, but id be uneasy with a dp who said stuff like that too.

SnappyLaGore · 26/01/2008 21:55

my dp only has eyes for me [smug and happy]
weve had some gorgeous AP's... was just thinking today how m,uch i miss one of them in partic. sigh.

carmenelectra · 26/01/2008 21:52

I just spoke to dp about this nanny/au pair business and he said its bollocks if a bloke says he doesnt fancy a pretty one! Or not be joking about it to his mates!

nortynamechanger · 26/01/2008 21:49

Hi ingles, yes still hear until 10th Feb. DS on second set of plastercasts now, could already see the difference to his feet after 1 week - Hurrah! He can walk fine and getting up to the usual mischief, thanks for asking.

ingles2 · 26/01/2008 20:07

small hijack..
Hi Norty,..do you still have stroppy french girl? how you doing with ds and dh away?
small hijack over..
Thanks