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Nursery not letting me do transition with my baby

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Caimum · 14/08/2022 21:14

My baby is due to start nursery when I go back to work , will be eleven months old. He hasn’t been left with anyone else before. The nursery is refusing to let me in to do a proper transition ie where I stay with him Initially and support him to have his care handed over to nursery staff. They are saying it’s because they still want Covid restrictions . I think this is not good practice and it will cause him distress. They mentioned One little girl cried for a month before settling.
my son is my seventh , and only successful pregnancy , I don’t want him crying for a month and being flooded with stress hormones and thinking I will stop crying as Mum is basically leaving me here.

its seemingly a good nursery based on a visit to this and others . It’s also the one we can afford given sky high nursery costs where we live.

Do they have the right to do this given Covid restrictions are lifted nationally ?
I would do a Covid test, wear masks and gloves , I’ve never had Covid as I’m extremely careful and have limited family and friends circle who mainly live a distance away.

Really upset , I just want to do a proper supportive handover and see how they are with my son too.

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Findahouse21 · 14/08/2022 21:18

Nurseries have the right to offer the transition that they think best, bearing in mind all of the children's needs. You have the right to accept this or not, and not use their services.

For what it's worth, my nursery offer exactly the same and my dd settled marvelously. I think they are less confused because there's a very black and white handover point. They also don't confused by other baby's parents being there at odd times.

Could you agree a compromise that you will be nearby and want to be called if he doesn't settle after x amount of minutes. What will you do if he cries on handover once you are back to work?

OhRiRi · 14/08/2022 21:18

Our nursery have kept their covid measures - similar no parent transition period, drop off at the gate etc. As they find the children adjust much quicker.

I'd be inclined to trust them, why would they do anything that would make their lives more difficult?

CaramelWaferAndTea · 14/08/2022 21:18

I really feel for you but they make the policy. Your choices are to negotiate that policy, and if it doesn’t work, to look elsewhere.

Have you considered a smaller setting like a childminder?

Imthedamnfoolwhoshothim · 14/08/2022 21:16

Of course they have the right it's their nursery you have no right of their services.

Many many children have done this now including mine. Accept the terms or find another placement.
But you should be prepared that I don't know anyone not doing this.

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