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Grandparents and routine

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No1toerag · 23/07/2022 14:46

Looking for a way through this.... we're looking after 15 month granddaughter 1.5 days /week, and have strict nap instructions which include waking her up before she's ready to wake up, and keeping her awake so she's ready for her afternoon nap. Not allowing her to sleep late in the afternoon I fully understand, but she hasn't read the memo and sometimes doesn't drop off at the prescribed times! This is causing some angst from her parents if she then doesn't go to bed at exactly the right time, so just wanted to gather some advice please?

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Mrsjayy · 23/07/2022 15:52

cantcomplainabouttheweather · 23/07/2022 15:48

15 months she won't be far off dropping the afternoon nap

I wonder if her parents know this 😁

cantcomplainabouttheweather · 23/07/2022 15:48

15 months she won't be far off dropping the afternoon nap

BertieBotts · 23/07/2022 15:40

Have you asked them how they get her to sleep at the right times or what they do if she doesn't?

Mrsjayy · 23/07/2022 15:07

Sometimes babies just fall asleep its not always as simple as following the scheduled nap.

DontPassMeBy · 23/07/2022 15:00

I agree with the "do your best" approach. If you are watching the child, you need to follow the parents' decisions. If you're unwilling to do that, then maybe your offer of childcare needs to come to an end.

RedToothBrush · 23/07/2022 14:59

"If you want a nutso schedule hire someone to do the care. Otherwise just let me get on with it within reason. Its excessive and I can't wait until you have your second child... "

quietnightmare · 23/07/2022 14:57

As everyone has said do you best. My sister was like this with my mum and my mum would get awfully upset over my sister having a go at her as she couldn't always guarantee her granddaughter would drop off at the correct time especially at my mothers house rather than my nieces house. Now my mother helps me with childcare and I'm so grateful for her help that she just tells me honestly what times my child has slept and I adapt the evening bedtime etc and thank her because any help shouldn't be taken for granted

CantaloupeMelon · 23/07/2022 14:53

I would say you'll do your best to follow the schedule but sometimes it doesn't work out as planned. And that if they're not happy with that they need to look for alternative childcare.

N4ish · 23/07/2022 14:51

I would say I couldn’t provide childcare under those circumstances. They should pay for a nanny if they insist on having such a rigid schedule imposed.

Mrsjayy · 23/07/2022 14:51

I mean if you are trying your best to follow the routine then what else are you supposed to do, personally I'd not let on the baby slept at the wrong time, if they don't think you are doing it correctly they are welcome to find alternative childcare.

Sirzy · 23/07/2022 14:49

I would tell the parents you are happy to provide childcare but your not willing or able to follow such a restrictive schedule. They can then decide if they relax things or use other childcare (who also won’t necessarily follow a strict schedule)