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Nanny share fee split

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TigerTill · 14/07/2022 12:27

Hi all - looking for some advice on how to share a nanny’s salary with the other family we’ve agreed to do a nanny share with. Generally we agreed to split 50:50 but it will be hosted full time in our home so I’m wondering if we should be entitled to pay a bit less? We’ll figure out how to split costs for food, nappies etc separately but given heating costs, cleaning equipment, general wear and tear (not to mention the minor hassle of having to store their extra high chair and travel cot, the double buggy etc) it seems fair that we should pay a little less. Is that standard practice and if so, how do you go about figuring out the difference?
thanks!

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Ohthatsexciting · 14/07/2022 17:33

As for splitting food costs

tricky when all in one home.

plus they have two children? How many do you have?

Ohthatsexciting · 14/07/2022 17:32

TigerTill · 14/07/2022 15:16

@Ohthatsexciting They didn’t offer to pay more, no, I brought it up as it had been suggested to me by a few people, especially given fuel costs and the fact that we’ll need to heat the house during the day in winter etc., but admittedly all by people who have never used a nanny! Food we’ll either do a joint shop or ask the nanny to do so - will depend on how the nanny is used to doing things, will certainly ask their advice (when we find one!).

I would be concerned they didn’t offer

Surely surely it is very obvious that you will be incurring the costs of running a home. In winter l!! The heating and electricity, the mess! Shudder

I would be concerned op

Sweettums · 14/07/2022 15:47

PS you should obviously split the food cost though. And the nanny should clean up after the kids so the “spotless home” thing shouldn’t be an issue wherever they are.

Sweettums · 14/07/2022 15:46

Our nanny share split the time between the homes but in your position I would still
split the cost equally. Part of the benefit of having a nanny is having them come to your house and have your child be around their stuff, not having to do pick up or drop off or pack a bag of your kids stuff. I don’t think you can really charge them for storing a few items and realistically 50% of the energy costs isn’t much when you offset the convenience to you of the above.

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TigerTill · 14/07/2022 15:16

@Ohthatsexciting They didn’t offer to pay more, no, I brought it up as it had been suggested to me by a few people, especially given fuel costs and the fact that we’ll need to heat the house during the day in winter etc., but admittedly all by people who have never used a nanny! Food we’ll either do a joint shop or ask the nanny to do so - will depend on how the nanny is used to doing things, will certainly ask their advice (when we find one!).

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Ohthatsexciting · 14/07/2022 14:09

How are you going to sort food etc?

Ohthatsexciting · 14/07/2022 14:08

Waterdropsdown · 14/07/2022 13:55

It’s so much easier having the nanny in your house! You don’t have to get your child ready in the morning, you don’t have to get them home at night. I would not be asking for a discount as this is sooo much better than having to schlep your child around in the morning or evening! Also your kid gets to be home around their own home comforts.

i guess if you were wfh it might not be so great of you are short of space. or you might think better as you could have a set time (lunch or something where you get to hang out with your kid)

I was the opposite

Loved coming back to spotless home.

especially if very local to get there

Ohthatsexciting · 14/07/2022 14:07

TigerTill · 14/07/2022 13:48

Thanks for your responses! 5% is around what I was thinking.

The other family have a small flat and don’t have space for a nanny to look after 2 children there so that’s not an option. We don’t mind at all, and they don’t have far to travel to get to us so not really an inconvenience for them.

And yes I meant the nanny share, not referring to the nanny as ‘it’!

Have they not offered?

Waterdropsdown · 14/07/2022 13:55

It’s so much easier having the nanny in your house! You don’t have to get your child ready in the morning, you don’t have to get them home at night. I would not be asking for a discount as this is sooo much better than having to schlep your child around in the morning or evening! Also your kid gets to be home around their own home comforts.

i guess if you were wfh it might not be so great of you are short of space. or you might think better as you could have a set time (lunch or something where you get to hang out with your kid)

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TigerTill · 14/07/2022 13:48

Thanks for your responses! 5% is around what I was thinking.

The other family have a small flat and don’t have space for a nanny to look after 2 children there so that’s not an option. We don’t mind at all, and they don’t have far to travel to get to us so not really an inconvenience for them.

And yes I meant the nanny share, not referring to the nanny as ‘it’!

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ChristmasJumpers · 14/07/2022 12:35

@SheepingStandingUp I would have though OP meant "it" as in the nanny service

SheepingStandingUp · 14/07/2022 12:33

Could you suggest to them you paying say 5%-10% more to cover households costs costs and utilities? They have the added inconvenience of travelling back and forth, is that going to be a big cost? If they refuse say you're happy to do the travel and pay more for them to host her.

SheepingStandingUp · 14/07/2022 12:30

but it will be hosted full time in our home it as in your Nanny?

Ohthatsexciting · 14/07/2022 12:29

why The heck did you offer at your place??!!

as for them paying more, yes.

I would be concerned the other family hasn’t offered tbh