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Lateness from parents driving me mad!

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Samthenanny · 16/06/2022 09:22

It’s pretty much every day, either 10 or 15 mins sometimes with a message to let me know and sometimes not.
one day a week a parent works from
home and more often than not I have to send a charge up so I can leave and that’s never on time either!
I work a long day 11hrs but the children are at school and I think the parents think ah it’s fine she’s had all day to herself kind of thing but that’s their choice!
1 parent will get home literally within seconds of my finishing time then won’t stop talking, giving me a list of things etc and I can be standing at the front door and it’ll just carry on.
I’ve asked to finish on time and I’ve sent a email which worked for a week and now we’re back to lateness.
I’m pregnant and all I want to do is get home at the end of the day as I’m shattered.
Apart from asking and sending emails what else can I do? 🤦🏻‍♀️

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underneaththeash · 25/10/2022 11:20

I thought your post was obvious too..
i’d have a conversation and say that you can see they’re struggling to get back for 6.45, maybe they should increase your hours to finish at 7 instead and then they aren’t having to rush?

Are you hoping to come back with your baby? (Or is it too long a day?)

LemonDrizzles · 24/10/2022 08:48

Charge them by the minute. Make it high. Your time is valuable.

Give them one month notice about the charge.

Your time IS valuable!

JustOrderADoor · 24/10/2022 08:46

ChangedMyNamrButStillMe · 16/06/2022 09:24

I’m sorry but I have absolutely no idea what you are talking about

That's down to your poor comprehension, not the OP.

Thehop · 21/06/2022 12:57

I have an appointment to get to I need to leave on time.

every day.

Blondeshavemorefun · 21/06/2022 07:17

Maybe be blunter and say I need to go. See you tomorrow. Bye. And walk.

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Samthenanny · 20/06/2022 22:59

@Blondeshavemorefun

Ah thank you, does say nanny in my user name also.

overtime should be paid as it says in the contract which rarely happens these days. I think mainly because I don’t have children during the day (parents choice completely) parents think I don’t do much. It’s not the extra money, I’d just like to finish on time and get home.

oh yeah they know I’m pregnant, told them at 12 weeks and I’m now over 6 months and very obviously pregnant.

I’ve done the whole can’t talk now I’m finished, sending the kids up etc doesn’t seem to work unfortunately.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 19/06/2022 23:51

Not sure why so many were confused with your post

obvious you are a nanny

anyway when they start chatting to say can we talk another Time as it’s past my contracted hours and I need to be somewhere - bye. Walk out door

what does contract say about overtime

if working at home at 2 mins before leave time. Knock on door with shoes and coat on. Say I’m off now. Kids downstairs reading / watching tv etx

do they know you are preg ?

Bonjovispjs · 16/06/2022 20:54

@Samthenanny It's infuriating isn't it? Your mum boss sounds pretty similar to mine, off getting her nails done, massages, lunches out etc, while I look after her kids, that's fine if they take over on time (although I'd rather she worked full time like she did when I first started) Are you otherwise happy in the job? If not, maybe it's time to move on.

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Samthenanny · 16/06/2022 20:47

@Bonjovispjs yup they’re the worse messages because as you say we can hardly leave.
today the mum was working from home and left at 6pm to go get her nails done and said I’ll tell dad he needs to get back for you. He came back at 7:05 20 mins late 🤦🏻‍♀️
they’ve had pretty much a extra hour from me this week.

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Bonjovispjs · 16/06/2022 12:34

I'm a nanny and I feel your pain OP, it is very common unfortunately and to me and a lot of other nannies, it just comes across as a lack of respect, like our time isn't as important as theirs. The one that particularly drives me crazy is when you get a message saying "I'm going to be half an hour late, is that ok?" It'll have to be ok won't it, I can hardly go off and leave the kids on their own! Saying that, I'm not sure what else you can do if you've already spoken to them, I guess you just have to persist.
I've actually left a job before because of the parents constant lateness, when I handed my notice in, even after I'd explained why, the dad said "is it the kids?" I said "no, it's you" 😃
Btw, for those mentioning it, when the OP says she sent her charge up, her charge is a child she's 'in charge' of.

BaaCake · 16/06/2022 09:52

titchy · 16/06/2022 09:49

As you see them arriving go and stand in the drive, maybe even sit in your car. And leave immediately.

Good idea. Write any handover notes on a paper pad for them and just walk out. If they start talking to you then don't be afraid to get blunt, sorry but I'm finished for the day, you've already kept me late.

titchy · 16/06/2022 09:49

As you see them arriving go and stand in the drive, maybe even sit in your car. And leave immediately.

CombatBarbie · 16/06/2022 09:45

Samthenanny · 16/06/2022 09:38

If the shoe was on the other foot and I was late every morning I reckon I wouldn’t have a job, it’s just lack of respect but quite common a common problem for nannies I think

Tell them this! They are taking the piss.

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Samthenanny · 16/06/2022 09:44

@TeenPlusCat thats a good idea, I could definitely do that

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TeenPlusCat · 16/06/2022 09:42

Could you ask for a 'health and safety' review now you are 6 months pregnant and stress that not leaving on time adds to your tiredness and stress?

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Samthenanny · 16/06/2022 09:40

@TeenPlusCat if my circumstances were different I’d leave as I have done in the past for the same reasoning but I’m 6 months pregnant and can’t be out of work atm.

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Samthenanny · 16/06/2022 09:38

If the shoe was on the other foot and I was late every morning I reckon I wouldn’t have a job, it’s just lack of respect but quite common a common problem for nannies I think

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TeenPlusCat · 16/06/2022 09:37

Oh, I read it that you were a childminder, but it makes more sense if you are a Nanny.

I think you really need to sit down with them and either agree different hours or TOIL (in 30 or 60 minute blocks for every lateness) or leave.

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Samthenanny · 16/06/2022 09:34

Sorry yes I’m a nanny, forgot to add that. Tbh if I charged they’d probably be fine with that but I want to finish at 6:45 as my contract states, so I can actually get home at a decent time.
I totally get sometimes you can’t leave the office on time, there’s delays etc but that’s not every day.

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Gazelda · 16/06/2022 09:34

I presume you're a nanny and on salary? Which makes it difficult to charge. Buy t you could add up the extra time you've worked each week and ask them to pay you overtime. That'd make them think about the cost of their rudeness

ApolloandDaphne · 16/06/2022 09:33

By a 'charge' she means a child. I think she is a nanny who works in at the home of a family and the family are always late home. I would start adding late charges to your bill.

ChangedMyNamrButStillMe · 16/06/2022 09:30

An, apologies. I thought you were talking about your own parents and I couldn’t make head or tail of it. You being a childminder/ nanny makes much more sense.

BaaCake · 16/06/2022 09:29

I'd start charging (a lot)

Gooseysgirl · 16/06/2022 09:29

Charge

TeenPlusCat · 16/06/2022 09:28

I think you should do what ASCs and Nurseries do and charge for lateness.
But also consider an X number of lates in period Y and you'll withdraw services as otherwise they'll feel they are paying for the extra time.

So maybe £5 for every minute, and only 1 late per term except in extreme extenuating circumstances?

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