Hi.
My son is 3 and has just started playscheme.
I have a childminder 4 days a week or 3.5days a week depending on my hours.
She seemed annoyed when I said I had applied to the playscheme but she always knew this was going to happen anyway.
Then I let her know he would be going 2 days a week. She seemed annoyed and said she didn't understand the need for him to go at all, as the other little mindee she has is 3 also and doesn't go to playscheme. She said that the mindee's mum has told her that she feels mindee gets enough stimulation at the minders house without going to playscheme.
I just feel different. There just is ds & other mindee and I want my son to mix with others, learn to share and have the experience of playscheme that his older sibling had.
I then text childminder on the day that ds started playscheme to tell her he loved it and it went well. Anyway the leader told me she actually had ds down for 3 days so I was fine with this and let the childminder know. She went odd on me and said did I not think she did a good job looking after him..and that she thinks one day would have been enough for him.. that's not the point.. I love her!! I love the way she is with ds but I feel he needs more! She will still have ds after playscheme and some mornings she will be dropping him off for me too.
Dh is not angry that the childminder thinks she has the right to tell us what to do with our son. He says that if she keeps this up we will look for someone else to have him after playscheme. He thinks it's about money, as she has always got paid for the hours she has him.. her own preference (same for other mindee)so this is cutting down on her hours... less pay. Of course I feel bad about thing, but now this means ds is part time she can take on more children, in fact she is getting a new mindee in September.
I don't want to confront her, she technically hasn't done anything.. she is just making me out to be neglectful for sending ds to a playscheme instead of her house She treats ds like her own, down to the fact that she often calls him XXXX (and her surname)And says she has 3 sons (she has just 2)
Any advice.. though not sure what would help