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Mummy201420202022 · 10/08/2021 17:52

Hey can anyone help please I'm looking too hire a virtual baby ( the ones that cry ) my partner is going too be a 1st time dad and I think this would help me with his confidence before we have our little bundle off joy. We don't want too send too much can anyone help? X

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:42

@bekindandgrateful

Can you create a plan so if he needs support you can call someone?
We have no one apart from each other
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FlibbertyGiblets · 11/08/2021 23:40

I am so sorry, I feel like I was prying somewhat.
I do hope your daughter can come home soon.

Best wishes for you all.

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:40

@Dandy0911

He won't be able to practice on a doll.

A doll doesn't have the essential needs a newborn does.

Speak to your midwife or HV when your baby is here, but really? Practicing on a doll?

I don't understand how that would help him at all.

And why 5 nights? This all seems a bit weird. Sorry.

The ones you can get that I'm on about you have too feed change them etc as they actually cry so it is just like a real baby
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bekindandgrateful · 11/08/2021 23:37

Can you create a plan so if he needs support you can call someone?

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:36

@bekindandgrateful

What are his worries? What is his disability if you don't mind me asking to get more of an understanding
He has cef & can't read or write & has cerebral palsy & learning difficulties
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bekindandgrateful · 11/08/2021 23:34

What are his worries? What is his disability if you don't mind me asking to get more of an understanding

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:34

@FlibbertyGiblets

Oh I see, *@JulesCobb*. You make a good point.

OP I am sorry your husband's disability prevented him from caring for the current baby. Maybe you could start to strengthen your local support network, get family and friends on board with planning for a hospital stay, who will have each of the current children whilst you're in who can drop auppl8es and check on husband, etc. This should help set your mind at rest.

Because she has been in hospital since she was born unfortunately he wouldn't like after her & nor can i all we can do is see her and hope for the best 😭 we don't have much support
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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:32

@Ginger1982

But you have an 8 month old baby already. Hadn't he had any experience with her?
No he hasn't because she has been in hospital since she has been born so hasn't been able too come home 😭
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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:32

[quote CreamCabbages]Sorry, but a doll like that is not much more different than a tamagotchi.

Although he is your partner and you will be parenting in partnership, it’s his responsibility as much as yours to prepare himself.

He could be a bit more proactive and pragmatic rather than asking you to get him a doll!

Perhaps he could research some parenting books or classes to help his confidence, or together you could do a baby first aid course like this-

www.nct.org.uk/local-activities-meet-ups/baby-first-aid[/quote]
He didn't ask me too do anything. And he can't read & he can't do classes plus there isn't any going on atm

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:31

@JulesCobb

Why can’t he look after your 8 month old baby? Surely, since youre pregnant, he has experience of her?
Because she has been in hospital since she has been born and hasn't been able too come home 😭
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FlibbertyGiblets · 11/08/2021 23:24
  • supplies not auppl8es, stupid phone
FlibbertyGiblets · 11/08/2021 23:23

Oh I see, @JulesCobb. You make a good point.

OP I am sorry your husband's disability prevented him from caring for the current baby. Maybe you could start to strengthen your local support network, get family and friends on board with planning for a hospital stay, who will have each of the current children whilst you're in who can drop auppl8es and check on husband, etc. This should help set your mind at rest.

Dandy0911 · 11/08/2021 23:18

He won't be able to practice on a doll.

A doll doesn't have the essential needs a newborn does.

Speak to your midwife or HV when your baby is here, but really? Practicing on a doll?

I don't understand how that would help him at all.

And why 5 nights? This all seems a bit weird. Sorry.

CiaoForNiao · 11/08/2021 23:17

@JulesCobb

Why can’t he look after your 8 month old baby? Surely, since youre pregnant, he has experience of her?
Good point
Ginger1982 · 11/08/2021 23:17

But you have an 8 month old baby already. Hadn't he had any experience with her?

CreamCabbages · 11/08/2021 23:14

Sorry, but a doll like that is not much more different than a tamagotchi.

Although he is your partner and you will be parenting in partnership, it’s his responsibility as much as yours to prepare himself.

He could be a bit more proactive and pragmatic rather than asking you to get him a doll!

Perhaps he could research some parenting books or classes to help his confidence, or together you could do a baby first aid course like this-

www.nct.org.uk/local-activities-meet-ups/baby-first-aid

ButterflyAway · 11/08/2021 23:12
Hmm
JulesCobb · 11/08/2021 23:11

Why can’t he look after your 8 month old baby? Surely, since youre pregnant, he has experience of her?

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:06

@Clammyclam

The dolls are in short supply sadly as lots of schools are struggling to get hold of them.

I think it's likely more helpful that you ask your midwife of health visiting team if there are any classes he can take part in.

Unfortunately there isn't due to COVID and he isn't good with working in classes due to his disability
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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:05

@SofaSpuds

Is this really possible? I'm not sure anything can give you the experience of the real thing.
Yeah it is
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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:05

@Howshouldibehave

he will not be comfortable with someone's else's baby over night for 5 nights and wants newborn

Well no, I can’t imagine anyone will lend you their newborn for 5 nights even if he did feel comfortable with itGrin

Why 5 nights?!

Due to his disability it will take at least 5 nights for him too feel comfortable
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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:04

@YumBroadBeans

Are you a first time mum too OP?
No I have 2 girls but after my youngest & oldest I was very poorly that I had too stay in hospital for 4 weeks
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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:03

@FlibbertyGiblets

Speak with your midwife about your concerns, she can help with advice.

I have heard of virtual babies used by schools with teenage pupils but not by members of the public.

Unfortunately she's not really helpful
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Clammyclam · 11/08/2021 23:03

The dolls are in short supply sadly as lots of schools are struggling to get hold of them.

I think it's likely more helpful that you ask your midwife of health visiting team if there are any classes he can take part in.

SofaSpuds · 11/08/2021 22:58

Is this really possible? I'm not sure anything can give you the experience of the real thing.