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Mummy201420202022 · 2021-08-10T16:52:51+00:00

Hey can anyone help please I'm looking too hire a virtual baby ( the ones that cry ) my partner is going too be a 1st time dad and I think this would help me with his confidence before we have our little bundle off joy. We don't want too send too much can anyone help? X

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 21:28

@TriciaMcMillan

You're very welcome. Good luck and I hope your daughter is well enough to be home with you soon too.

Thank you, we miss her like mad her big sister always ask she is and when she comes home which unfortunately she can't until she can get a kidney donner ( he's not her dad but has been great for me and my 6 year old & taking on my 8 month old ) x

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 21:26

@Kittykat93

With the greatest of respect you both probably should have had this discussion before you got pregnant, if you actually worry about him not being able to care for a child. It sounds like with a seriously ill baby and your partner having medical and learning difficulties you already have a lot to contend with..you are going to need support. I'd contact the gp or midwife In the first instance and explain everything you have here. Get that support in place ready for when the baby arrives.

We didn't plan the baby I was on the pill

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Kittykat93 · 12/08/2021 19:41

With the greatest of respect you both probably should have had this discussion before you got pregnant, if you actually worry about him not being able to care for a child. It sounds like with a seriously ill baby and your partner having medical and learning difficulties you already have a lot to contend with..you are going to need support. I'd contact the gp or midwife In the first instance and explain everything you have here. Get that support in place ready for when the baby arrives.

TriciaMcMillan · 12/08/2021 19:33

You're very welcome. Good luck and I hope your daughter is well enough to be home with you soon too.

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 18:58

@Tibtab

The midwives at the hospital might be able to help

Unfortunately they can't as I'm only 8 weeks 1 day

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 18:58

@youvegottenminuteslynn

If his disabilities impact on his ability to assume his parenting role, he may be able to access support through social care. I would encourage you to contact adult social care in the council who can assess him and arrange services as appropriate.

This is brilliant advice and I'm really pleased you're going to give them a call tomorrow - let us know how you get on. There is support out there and no shame whatsoever in asking for it

With men they don't like asking for help lol

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Tibtab · 12/08/2021 18:32

The midwives at the hospital might be able to help

youvegottenminuteslynn · 12/08/2021 18:19

If his disabilities impact on his ability to assume his parenting role, he may be able to access support through social care. I would encourage you to contact adult social care in the council who can assess him and arrange services as appropriate.

This is brilliant advice and I'm really pleased you're going to give them a call tomorrow - let us know how you get on. There is support out there and no shame whatsoever in asking for it

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 17:57

@bekindandgrateful

I'm so sorry your in this position I wish people could help you both ☹️ but for his confidence he will hopefully adapt better than you expect xxx

Thank you xx think it's worried about how he will cope xx

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 17:56

@ButterflyAway

Maybe having a baby with him isn’t the best decision right now if he can’t currently look after himself. It’s all going to be on you, and from what you’ve said you’ve got a seriously sick baby as it is.

I didn't say anything about him not being a able too look after himself he does a god dam lot for himself

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 17:55

[quote TriciaMcMillan]The Family Rights Group have some useful information and offer guidance and support.

"Adult physical disabilities or ill-health - Family Rights Group" frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/why/adult-physical-disabilities-or-ill-health/[/quote]
I will take a look at this thank you

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 17:54

@speakout

I would try to get some support OP. You have a great deal to cope with right now- a baby in hospital long term, a partner with cerebral palsy, another child and you are pregnant. Can you speak to your HV to see if there are any support services you can access? I know things are stretched, but there are often local charities or organisations at least to give you respite or help with transport or other needs.

We don't see the HV & won't until our baby is out off hospital thank you though

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 17:54

@TriciaMcMillan

If his disabilities impact on his ability to assume his parenting role, he may be able to access support through social care. I would encourage you to contact adult social care in the council who can assess him and arrange services as appropriate. This is absolutely NOT the same as being involved with children's social care because the child has been identified as being at risk.

I didn't know this, thank you I will give them a call tomorrow. Not many people on my post is helping me right now & feel like I'm being slagged off due too it so I may come off this

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Mummy201420202022 · 12/08/2021 17:52

@Toddlerteaplease

Surely he is doing some care for your baby while she's in hospital? Can't he go and stay overnight with her?

Only the nurses can do the care due too her wires

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Howshouldibehave · 12/08/2021 09:22

It sounds like he has significant additional needs and you already have a baby who hasn’t yet come home at 8 months? How pregnant are you? I would be involving social care for support.

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TriciaMcMillan · 12/08/2021 07:11

The Family Rights Group have some useful information and offer guidance and support.

"Adult physical disabilities or ill-health - Family Rights Group" frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/why/adult-physical-disabilities-or-ill-health/

TriciaMcMillan · 12/08/2021 07:06

If his disabilities impact on his ability to assume his parenting role, he may be able to access support through social care. I would encourage you to contact adult social care in the council who can assess him and arrange services as appropriate. This is absolutely NOT the same as being involved with children's social care because the child has been identified as being at risk.

Toddlerteaplease · 12/08/2021 06:47

Surely he is doing some care for your baby while she's in hospital? Can't he go and stay overnight with her?

speakout · 12/08/2021 06:32

I would try to get some support OP.
You have a great deal to cope with right now- a baby in hospital long term, a partner with cerebral palsy, another child and you are pregnant.
Can you speak to your HV to see if there are any support services you can access?
I know things are stretched, but there are often local charities or organisations at least to give you respite or help with transport or other needs.

bekindandgrateful · 11/08/2021 23:48

I'm so sorry your in this position I wish people could help you both ☹️ but for his confidence he will hopefully adapt better than you expect xxx

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:45

@bekindandgrateful

Is there anyone that helps with his disability ever? Or can you ask a friend or family member to be on standby in case he needs it?

Only me and he's learnt to do it on his own unfortunately there isn't no

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bekindandgrateful · 11/08/2021 23:42

Is there anyone that helps with his disability ever? Or can you ask a friend or family member to be on standby in case he needs it?

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Mummy201420202022 · 11/08/2021 23:42

@FlibbertyGiblets

I am so sorry, I feel like I was prying somewhat. I do hope your daughter can come home soon.

Best wishes for you all.

It's ok you wasn't x thank you x

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