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Totality · 26/04/2021 00:36

I have been shown proof that my nanny has shared photos of my child via texts to a boyfriend. Am I within my rights to summarily dismiss her?

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starsinyourpies · 26/04/2021 20:42

Why doesn't she have a contact? Sounds more like babysitting than being a nanny.

PinkCookie11 · 26/04/2021 20:42

How did you find out?
I wouldn’t be happy and get rid

TagsMum · 26/04/2021 20:41

How have you found this info out?
Surely if you employ her, she should have a contract...?

SmidgenofaPigeon · 26/04/2021 20:36

Had you tapped her phone?

Why is there no contract?

youvegottenminuteslynn · 26/04/2021 20:34

How have you come across these private texts and photos between her and her boyfriend? I think that's a really important bit of missing information at the moment as I can't see how this would be something you could know / prove?

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Totality · 26/04/2021 20:28

She sent photos and video of my seven year old daughter to a boyfriend without my knowledge. There is no contract and she works for another couple on the same basis. She also sent photos and video of their child to her bf.
I believe it is gross misconduct and it has certainly destroyed my trust in her. Additionally she sent him texts which were derogatory about me. I just want to make sure I’m on safe ground to dismiss her ASAP with no prospect of her claiming unfair dismissal.

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NannyElle · 26/04/2021 07:32

Is this something that is in your contract with her? I work as a nanny and I have always had no social media posting in my contract but nothing about family and friends and my bosses have always been fine with me showing pictures of the children to my parents or close friends. Are you sure this is something they knew you would be upset by?

broodybumps · 26/04/2021 01:05

OP, I haven't employed a nanny however I think it would come under gross misconduct. I work in a hospital and if I took a photo of a patient, I'd be dismissed. Obviously it's totally different circumstances.

Can I ask what the context of the photo was?

Was your child in the background/was it an innocent photo of something else but your child happened to feature in it? Or was it a photo of your child along with wording regarding your child? I think some more context would help others with their responses.

Cocksinsocks · 26/04/2021 00:52

What's your contract say

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 26/04/2021 00:52

Depends on whether you forbade it in the contract she signed.

Also depends if said contract states you can fire at will for anything you deem misconduct.

If there is no contract, no legal agreement whatsoever as to her terms of employment you can do what you want I think

Someone else who has actually employed a nanny will be along.

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