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Grandparents don't seem interested

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clairejnelly · 07/04/2021 14:50

My parents live over an hour away but are obsessed with my 3 month old.

My partners parents are 10 mins away but not that bothered.

I understand all grandparents are different. Recently I've suffered with post natal depression, insomnia and we have just moved house. We asked if they would sit with our daughter to give us some time out and we felt like we were putting on them... it didn't feel natural.

His mum has been off work for 10 days and hasn't asked to see the baby or spend time, but we have nipped round to theirs.

I can't help but feel upset, but at the same time I'm fully aware that we are all different...

How can I feel differently?

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Lubiluxe · 10/04/2021 09:29

Depending where you are in the world, could it be due to covid restrictions? Some people want to stick to the rules and that, unfortunately, means not socialising with family..

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clairejnelly · 07/04/2021 20:32

@ivfbeenbusy

You are lucky you have posted in Childcare and not AIBU otherwise you'd be absolutely roasted 🤣

Generally I've found that where the grandchild is the child of a daughter then grandparents tend to be more interested

But some grandparents just feel like they have done their time with their own kids and just not interested in anyone else's

What's AIBU?
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ivfbeenbusy · 07/04/2021 20:10

You are lucky you have posted in Childcare and not AIBU otherwise you'd be absolutely roasted 🤣

Generally I've found that where the grandchild is the child of a daughter then grandparents tend to be more interested

But some grandparents just feel like they have done their time with their own kids and just not interested in anyone else's

pheasantsinlove · 07/04/2021 14:58

Some people just aren't baby people. I don't think you can take it personally. If you and DH have a good relationship with them then I'd expect them to offer because they know you're struggling, but it might not occur to them because they just don't enjoy babies. My mum and auntie joke about how rubbish my grandma was when me and my cousins were babies.. she made it clear that she'd be doing no babysitting as she'd already had her turn raising babies, but as we got older (once we were over 5) she was a brilliant grandma as she enjoyed our company as we got older 🤷‍♀️

Beamur · 07/04/2021 14:53

You have my sympathies. My PIL were disinterested in DD, made all the more hard to swallow as they were quite hands on with DH's older kids.
Try not to feel resentful (I didn't succeed terribly well!) and grateful that at least your parents are keen to be grandparents.

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