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Nanny starting late, leaving early

114 replies

Whatnameisgood · 10/01/2021 20:37

Family A and Family B have a nanny as a 3 day a week nanny share. Nanny wants to arrive 5 minutes late (9.05) and leave 5 minutes early (6.55) every day as it fits with her trains. Otherwise she’d be waiting 20 minutes at the beginning and end of the day for her trains (if she arrived on time and left on time). Family A doesn’t mind, but Family B thinks if you start at 9.05 you finish at 7.05 (meaning a 20 minute wait for the next train). Who is right?

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EggyPegg · 10/01/2021 21:13

@Myshinynewname2021

It would depend on whether the nanny was a good nanny and a valued employee, or a bit shit. I can't see how it adversely affects them. Family b need to wake up because behaving like this will ensure their nannies are never top notch.

And those are LONG hours. Is that even legal?

Not unusual for nannies to do 7-7. I've done it. And you don't get specific breaks, but squeeze it in where you can when the child naps/has some screen time/plays with friends. In my last 7-7 job, the child would watch Peppa Pig after an activity. I'd clear up the activity, make a cup of tea and sit and watch it with her. It's not a complete break, but it is downtime. I would have lunch with her, and then a cup of tea and read my book for a bit whilst she napped before doing things like sorting the children's laundry. Toddler groups were heaven as there was a group of us and it was a morning where there was less pressure. (Parents all perfectly happy with this by the way, I was very good at my job).

And if it's a job with a small baby, they sleep a lot. So plenty of quiet time (but a bit boring after a while, give me a 2 year old any day).

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 10/01/2021 21:12

I work (ed) in an office, if I’d left 5mins early every day I could catch the slightly earlier train and had no wait- but I wouldn’t get away with that as I was contracted until 5pm. Someone’s travel is of no concern to an employer.
Equally she could propose starting 20mins earlier or staying 20mins later.

fireplaceburning · 10/01/2021 21:12

Well it depends on if the families need her there at a certain time. So if I was heading to work and HAD to leave early in the morning and couldn't wait 5 mins then I'd expect them to be there on time, same applies at the end of the day. If not then the 5 mins wouldn't worry me

Wigglegiggle0520 · 10/01/2021 21:11

@AbbeyBelfast

What a stupid question.

Who would have another human being stood alone in a train station for 20 minutes for the sake of letting them off with 10 mins???

Are people actually that tight and anal they would do this? Honestly, people do nothing but disappoint me.

Absolutely this.
Myshinynewname2021 · 10/01/2021 21:10

If the nanny is waiting 20 minutes for a bus and leaving at 7 then she's not getting home till 8-8.40 pm. And she starts at 9 am. If I was that nanny I would be leaving at 6 pm 6.30 MAX.

Makingnumber2 · 10/01/2021 21:09

Family B sound like penny pinching pedants and will be lucky to retain a half decent Nanny with that attitude.

Beautiful3 · 10/01/2021 21:09

Sorry, that actually amounts to 2 hours per month!!!

NannyR · 10/01/2021 21:09

And those are LONG hours. Is that even legal?
Long hours? That's a late start for a nanny - I'm doing 7.30-6 at the moment, have had jobs that are 7.30-7.30 in the past.

Beautiful3 · 10/01/2021 21:08

That's an hour she's not working, per month. I'm sorry but waiting 20 minutes is not long at all. Family b are correct. Unless you adjust her wages, so deduct 1 hour per month from her salary.

custardbear · 10/01/2021 21:07

Does It make a Difference? Does she do less in the day?
I personally would say I could be flexible if everything is done and perhaps sometimes she be ale to do a favour like a babysitting session from time to time - I wouldn't bother me as long as it was 5 mins and didn't drift

Hapixmas · 10/01/2021 21:06

Family A are right in my opinion.

In a nanny job a while ago, they used to let me leave 10 mins early in the winter to catch the earlier bus. It was horrible waiting in the cold and dark.
In the summer I used to stay til the end and I would walk to a further bus stop as I enjoyed the walk and it meant not as much waiting around.

EggyPegg · 10/01/2021 21:06

Could there be a compromise if Family B are really so rigid? If her earlier train gets her in at 8.40, can she start 10 minutes earlier rather than lose the time at the end? It will mean that she's unlikely to be flexible with staying late though as her day would be even longer.

Myshinynewname2021 · 10/01/2021 21:05

It would depend on whether the nanny was a good nanny and a valued employee, or a bit shit. I can't see how it adversely affects them. Family b need to wake up because behaving like this will ensure their nannies are never top notch.

And those are LONG hours. Is that even legal?

partyatthepalace · 10/01/2021 21:04

@RubyViolet

Family A, happy Nanny. Family B , resentful Nanny.
No one is right or wrong, but unless you have a good reason, then see above.
Anotherlovelybitofsquirrel · 10/01/2021 21:04

Isn't it awful? Shocking that someone would happily have someone lose 40 minutes of their day so they can save 10 mins of theirs. People are gross

Agreed. Family B are twats and must be awful to work for!

RubyViolet · 10/01/2021 21:03

Family A, happy Nanny.
Family B , resentful Nanny.

LemonDrizzles · 10/01/2021 21:01

Family a is right

EggyPegg · 10/01/2021 21:01

Technically Family B are right. I just hope that they work exactly their contracted hours and not a minute less if they are holding the nanny as accountable.

Speaking as an ex-nanny, I agree with PP about family A having a nanny that feels valued and respected due to that approach. She's far more likely to be flexible if you ever need her to stay late if you are flexible to accommodate her not needing to stand on a freezing platform for 20 minutes in the dark.

I have had both types of employers. There were some that I'd go above and beyond for. And others that I did exactly what was in my job description and did not offer flexibility when it came to hours.

cansu · 10/01/2021 21:00

Unless this makes a difference in terms of making it harder for the parents to get in the door at the end of the day, family B are being pathetic. I would maybe suggest that it is tried and see how it works. I would imagine the start time is more of an issue as if the train etc is late, she will be very late for work and not just 5 minutes whilst an earlier train gives more of a buffer.

AbbeyBelfast · 10/01/2021 20:59

[quote DfEisashambles]@AbbeyBelfast I cannot believe some of the replies on here. Mind boggling.[/quote]
Isn't it awful? Shocking that someone would happily have someone lose 40 minutes of their day so they can save 10 mins of theirs. People are gross.

Aerielview · 10/01/2021 20:58

Family A are showing a bit of consideration, which will likely lead to a good relationship with the nanny, and loyalty on her part.
Family B aren't showing the same consideration for her personal safety (having to wait around train stations), and five minutes morning and evening won't really make much of a difference to the family, but will make a big difference to the nanny.
If I worked for inflexible family B, I might soon look for another job; one where I felt more valued and appreciated.

DfEisashambles · 10/01/2021 20:57

@AbbeyBelfast I cannot believe some of the replies on here. Mind boggling.

Archersandlemonade · 10/01/2021 20:56

I can’t believe family b would
Even argue the fact.
It’s 5 mins at the start of the day - 5 mins at the end - barley noticeable! And would make a big difference the nanny’s already long day. Wouldn’t want to work
For them. Doubt she will for much
Longer either,

DfEisashambles · 10/01/2021 20:56

Family A. Nanny needs to think carefully about working with a family like Family B.

Veterinari · 10/01/2021 20:55

It depends whether you actually need her for that time, or whether you'd rather have an irritated, likely to leave nanny hanging around for 10 mins/day to satisfy your jobsworthy technicality