Nanny starting late, leaving early

People's assumptions are revealing. We don't know if the nanny is a good nanny, or if Family A are lovely people and a dream to work for. We don't know if Family B are unreasonable, unfeeling or mean. Perhaps Family B have to commute so have a compelling need to have Nanny at work by a fixed time. Lots of peopie are saying 'it's only 10 minutes!' as though it's just about the money- perhaps it's about making everyone's timetable work. Perhaps Mum B has to wait for an hour for her train if she misses the earlier one, or maybe she isn't free to leave her own work earlier. Perhaps the Nanny share is at Family A's house so it's easy for them to accommodate the request. Perhaps Family B have had prior experience of giving an inch and a yard being taken. Perhaps the families have different attitudes to other aspects of the job such as use of car, paid babysitting, holidays etc. It would be a great thing if they can negotiate a solution that works for everyone, but ultimately there is nothing so unreasonable about wanting to stick to the agreement reached on appointment. I had a great relationship with my children's nanny and we are still friends. But as a professional she understood her role was necessary so I could work, and her hours were set to accommodate mine, not the other way round. There is more than one way to show consideration and respect and to be a good employer.

Family A are more reasonable and worth it for a good nanny.

My goodness. Reading these replies has been an eye opener.. I am a professional nanny and have been for over 30 years.. if my working day was 9 am start then 9 am start it should be.. it’s my problem if my train is not a convenient time...
From my side it’s not either of the families that have an issue it’s the nanny...

I would not want to work with or for family B. That style of thinking will be a pain in the arse.

Hilarious answers!
Take it off her lunch ? Nannies don’t get a lunch hour . It would mean leaving young children alone .
At present when lots of parents working from home would be possible but I don’t know any nannies who get an official break.
I would ask family to dock my pay. I wouldn’t want to be lingering any longer than normal at station at present time.

@notanotherwalk that's the issue we don't have enough information.

I think it's really simple. If family B have no issue with timings then cut the nanny some slack. If family B must leave at that time to get to where they are going then the nanny has to suck it up!

A nanny is not like an office worker at all. This is someone looking after your children, for long periods of time. Unless Family B really need those 10 minutes they are being awful.

So @Whatnameisgood. What’s the outcome

Will nanny arrive late and leave early

Is share at your or b house

Are you all at work Or working at home

Family A sound lovely and how employers should be, flexible. They expect us to be flexible and work extra extra when they need it.

Family A

Seriously. It's 10 mins and will make her day much easier/more pleasant. I can't believe anyone would quibble about this unless there's some very good reason why she's needed for that 5 minutes.

Some employers really don't get that some flexibility to your employees gets flexibility and loyalty back. Plus it's morally right to treat employees kindly with some consideration that they have lives and need a work/life balance.

She's really asking for very little here.

Any decent person would not leave her waiting 20 minutes for a train,

@Whatnameisgood where is the share ? Your house or b ?

20 minutes is a bloody long time to wait for the bus or train in this cold AND it's also putting herself and her families more at risk the longer she waits, FivetoFour.🙄

Family B is right.
And 20 minutes is nothing to wait for a train,if it was an hour plus the nanny might be reasonable to add but to ask to work less ( even if its only 10 minutes) because you don't want a 20 minute wait for your train? I'm

I don't actually have a problem with starting 5 mins late and finishing 5 mins early, but I'd be concerned that this was the suggestion from the nanny rather than start late and finish late or something similar. It may depend in the way it was worded I suppose. If she's a new nanny, it may indicate that she doesn't really consider it important if she's there on time because you're home anyway, watch for the 9:05 sliding into 9:15 and be ready to pull back immediately if it does

Whose house is the share in ?

Can they wait till b is back

And op

Do you and family b both work at hoke

I used to leave college 10 minutes early otherwise it meant an hour on the bus stop. Mg tutor was lovely about it. Mind you, being stood there on a cold November night when it was late spurred me to learn to drive fairly soon afterwards.

I take it you’re A then OP?

My first office job, they let me leave at 4.50 each day so I could get the 4.55 bus. Otherwise I had to wait for to 5.25 bus which was always late and I wouldn’t get home till after 7pm. Even office bosses can be nice sometimes.

It really depends if it's just the principle, or if the 5 minutes means that family B also has to take later/earlier trains and lose maybe half an hour working time?

What a stupid question.

Who would have another human being stood alone in a train station for 20 minutes for the sake of letting them off with 10 mins???

Are people actually that tight and anal they would do this? Honestly, people do nothing but disappoint me.

^This.

If nobody is inconvenienced I can't see any point in making a fuss about it. But I suppose on the face of it she is being a little bit cheeky.