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Are you sending your nannies home?

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Laissonslesjoliesfemmes · 04/01/2021 14:19

I know she's allowed to work and she's happy to come, but it doesn't really feel right. It's childcare but it's also mixing households. We'd keep her on full pay as per the first lockdown. Or am I over-reacting and everyone else's nannies will keep coming in?

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GlowingOrb · 04/01/2021 15:31

As long as she doesn’t have to use public transport, I think it’s ok.

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Laissonslesjoliesfemmes · 04/01/2021 15:22

No public transport involved. I guess it's as safe as it can be. We have a very strict cleaning regime and work in a home office so it's just her and the DC in the house. I don't know. It just still doesn't quite sit right somehow. Thanks everyone for your thoughts!

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Waterdropsdown · 04/01/2021 15:17

Don’t feel guilty, you are allowed to use a nanny and the nanny isn’t vulnerable. I would do things like making sure transport is as risk free as possible, for example does nanny have a car? If not and you do let her use yours.

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Laissonslesjoliesfemmes · 04/01/2021 15:14

It's mostly a feeling that it's not quite in the spirit of things, with a layer of guilt! I am also worried she might not tell me if she doesn't feel safe. I guess I feel household mixing is either safe or it's not. So, if it's not, should I ask her to come in? Then I remember how awful it was starting at 5am/finishing at midnight last time. I guess I'm just after a yardstick of what everyone else with a nanny is doing as one small part of my decision making.

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borageforager · 04/01/2021 15:02

Don’t feel guilty! I know what you mean though, last lockdown I was a SAHP & I felt conscious how much easier (not that it was easy) it was for me not trying to balance work as well. But we all have our own challenges...! If nobody is vulnerable and she is still happy to come to work I don’t see any reason not to continue, & to send her home out of guilt would be ridiculous.

BlairCorneliaWaldorf · 04/01/2021 14:56

Don’t feel guilty. Just be respectful of your colleagues, friends, etc that don’t have the option.

BlairCorneliaWaldorf · 04/01/2021 14:55

Definitely not sending our nanny home.

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Laissonslesjoliesfemmes · 04/01/2021 14:53

She's happy to come and we need the childcare (as do people without nannies - part of my qualm is driven by feeling guilty that we have this option). Nobody is vulnerable at either end and we're all very careful.

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borageforager · 04/01/2021 14:21

Are they comfortable to still come in to work? Don’t you need the childcare? I’m currently shitting myself how to find childcare for my 9 and 5 year olds if school closes (not entitled to key worker place but expected by work to come in anyway), so if I had a nanny there is no chance I would be sending them home if they were happy to continue to work.

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