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I’m scared of paedophiles having access to my child when in childcare

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OrangeSprout · 04/01/2021 11:59

Yes I know how insane this sounds...but I don’t want to hear about me being OTT or getting help for being irrational.
What are other mums doing about childcare who are thinking about this too?
I have a meeting with a childminder today, who looks great. Her husband is also a childminder and will be around in the day too. Registered and dbs checked and all the qualifications and experience, ticks all boxes and I think DS would thrive in her care, but how can I get reassurance? Or minimise risk with choosing Childcare?
Quitting work and being with DS 24/7 would obviously get rid of risk but then stifle his development and I need to work!
There’s no other easy answer, but would really appreciate other’s ideas or thoughts on being as practically safe as possible.

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Orf1abc · 04/01/2021 12:08

The simple answer is to get help with your anxiety. You're not helping your child by being irrational.

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OrangeSprout · 04/01/2021 12:07

Thanks for your help

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MRC20 · 04/01/2021 12:07

I think you're right to consider this. Personally my kids are in female only childcare and will be until they start school especially as they're non verbal currently. It's not that I have a particular fear that paedophiles would get access to them but given pretty much all paedophiles are men why take the risk if you don't have to?

PlanDeRaccordement · 04/01/2021 12:06

If you’ve seen copies of the DBS checks and certifications/qualifications and spoken to their references of other parents who have used them, then you’ve minimised the risk as much as possible.

AuntieMarys · 04/01/2021 12:06

You are being irrational

Dishwashervodka · 04/01/2021 12:05

I had this fear with my first. Once she was 18m I decided she was ready and I found a place which felt right.
Look at the behaviour of the other children when you visit but personally I chose a nursery and am happy with my choice.

FasterthanBolt · 04/01/2021 12:02

You go with your gut instinct, it's all you can do really. Speak to other parents, ask the childminder as many questions as you feel appropriate about how they would deal with different situations. Ask about safeguarding.

But you do need to learn to deal with this, your child is going to be in the care of others at many different times and you can't go through life thinking the worst.

SpaceOp · 04/01/2021 12:01

All those things re registered, dos checked, qualified, experience and, I assume, references are the way to minimise risk. Then you keep an eye on your child and look for behaviour changes etc.

But basically, whether you want to hear it or not, you are being OTT if you are this terrified.