I’m scared of paedophiles having access to my child when in childcare

the male staff weren't scared of spiders or creepy crawlies

How odd. Were the women all frightened of spiders and creepy crawlies?

Some posts on this thread are so sad. We chose a nursery BECAUSE it had male staff. With comments as above there's no wonder there's a lack of men in early years. The male cook was a trained chef and made great meals for the kids and the male staff weren't scared of spiders or creepy crawlies and had all the kids handling bugs all the time! They took them to the park and created rope swings for them which the female staff never did. Not once did I have any concerns about their motives or behaviour towards my DD. Never. One was outrageous gay and very funny, and two I know have gone on to start families of their own.

Statistically men are more likely to abuse. However you don,t know in childcare if thee women your leaving your children with are a minority of the women abusers or one or the majority of men who are not abusers. Ultimately if you don,t trust someone don,t leave your child with them.

[quote jannier]@1940s
You cant have it both ways one minute saying you dont trust men in childcare or changing rooms the next saying they don't pose a heightened risk.....if they don't why are you objecting to them and depriving children of seeing that men can be loving caring people capable of nurturing children role models that can make them better parents rather than the ones who believe boys cant play pushchairs and girls can't be engineers.[/quote]
I never said they don't pose a heightened risk! I said they do pose a heightened risk!! Males are more likely to sexually abuse children. That's a fact

@1940s
You cant have it both ways one minute saying you dont trust men in childcare or changing rooms the next saying they don't pose a heightened risk.....if they don't why are you objecting to them and depriving children of seeing that men can be loving caring people capable of nurturing children role models that can make them better parents rather than the ones who believe boys cant play pushchairs and girls can't be engineers.

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Of course they don't pose a heightened risk because of their gender !
What an obscure view.

You'll be saying only girls are vulnerable to abuse next and not boys.

[quote jannier]@1940s
For there to be a higher risk with male childcare given so few men are in childcare you would have to be assuming every man in childcare is a peadophile and then it would be pushing it. The risk of child sexual abuse in childcare is so low hence why when it happens it makes the news whereas the thousands of cases happening in the child's home are not news worthy.
I think its awful you have such a low opinion of men. Are you the one doing all the changing, bathing and bedtimes at home?[/quote]
So you don't believe males pose a heightened risk of sex abuse in childcare settings?

@1940s
For there to be a higher risk with male childcare given so few men are in childcare you would have to be assuming every man in childcare is a peadophile and then it would be pushing it. The risk of child sexual abuse in childcare is so low hence why when it happens it makes the news whereas the thousands of cases happening in the child's home are not news worthy.
I think its awful you have such a low opinion of men. Are you the one doing all the changing, bathing and bedtimes at home?

I don't know June you tell me. Where is the research and evidence to show most sexual abuse of youngsters is facilitated by women, it's not myself who has made this claim. Always the women's fault isn't it 😉

1% are female but how many are enablers? how many turn a blind eye?

@jannier

@Marley20
Working with my local safegaurding board where all cases of abuse come in from all sources and are investigated

That's a big claim to base on anecdotal evidence. Ministry of Justice stats show less than 1% of sexual offenders are female.

You don't need to say "in a pandemic" when we've been living in one for nearly a year 😂

If my loved ones needed care, or my children were in school or ChildcareI would trust the trained and vetted professionals as far as you can, regardless of their sex.

if your so concerned about your DC being abused you should be more concerned about those closer to home. Most abuse happens in the family home or by someone trusted, grandfather, father, uncle etc and more rarely female relatives. Your likely safer using a fully vetted childminder with a good track record

Working in a care home yes one can rewuest female only for intimate care, but when their is staff shortage and two staff per client needde their isn,t always a choice.

1940s you've clearly got a problem with it

Each to their own but I have no idea why you'd only want a female care giver of any sort.

We are in a pandemic

Ok so what abut older people. (children and adults ) who are on verbal do we say men can,t work with them.?

My point is that the OP indicates her worry is heightened because the childminder has a male, registered assistant

If anyone seriously believes that only males can be peadophiles or deviants then they are very mistaken.
Don't understand why the man would pose an extra risk.