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Nannies-did you get anything for Christmas from your families?

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Darklylookingdeeply · 28/12/2020 19:25

I am can't help feeling slightly gutted that I didn't even get a card. I think it's worse that some years I have been given gifts, some years nothing. It makes me feel like it's performance related or something. Maybe I was shit this year😁

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Florencemattell · 29/12/2020 12:59

Very rude. At the very least a card and small gift from the children (preferably home made card).
I received generous vouchers as did my own children. I don’t even take my own children to work. My employers are lovely and very kind. But the gift I loved was a hand made by one of my charges. So sweet and I will treasure.

WoooooGhoulsDoAFlit · 28/12/2020 22:36

That's awful OP, what ungrateful employers you have! I've been a nanny for many. many years, (although I'm currently a family PA), and I've always received lovely, thoughtful gifts and cash bonuses from all my employers - it's the done thing! (Or it was...!). My current employers, who I've been with for many years, are always extremely generous at Xmas and birthdays, and they buy wonderful gifts for my DC too. I'd be really pissed off if I were you, plus they're setting a terrible example to their kids too, (who sound lovely).

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Darklylookingdeeply · 28/12/2020 22:35

@MatildaonaWaltzer They definitely celebrate Christmas. No religious reasons not to.

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Fabpinky · 28/12/2020 22:26

I got an lovely bunch of flowers delivered to my house as I’ve been furloughed

MatildaonaWaltzer · 28/12/2020 22:17

it is appallingly inconsiderate for any employer, but in a domestic setting it's really poor. The fact that the children are aware makes it toe curling. You're goig to have to work hard teaching them about how to be considerate to others because it appears unlikely they'll get it from the parents (no chance they are eg muslim and don't therefore do christmas? I find it so astonishing that I'm looking for the reasonable excuse!)

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Darklylookingdeeply · 28/12/2020 22:11

@MyGazeboisLeaking yes, completely. I should expect it really, but it's always a bit annoying. I know people don't always get thanks in other jobs, so I should just suck it up really. I think it is unusual not to get anything as a nanny though. especially when I always give gifts, cards etc on every occasion. I know you don't give to receive and all, but it's just a bit rude

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MyGazeboisLeaking · 28/12/2020 21:40

That is a shame, OP.

I can see why you'd be upset / slightly perturbed.

Does it fit with their style in general?

Littlefluffyclouds13 · 28/12/2020 20:47

I was a nanny over 20 years ago and received a very generous cash bonus every year and always a lovely card too.
Back then it was very much the norm.

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Darklylookingdeeply · 28/12/2020 20:33

@MatildaonaWaltzer I guess both have jobs that are demanding, one probably very high stress. However, I have never had this in any other family and they have all had equally demanding jobs.
@Respectabitch I probably am taking it personally when it is just how they are generally - disorganised and thoughtless! I am sounding off really and wondering if I am the only one!

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Respectabitch · 28/12/2020 20:14

We got our nanny a gift, if it helps. Cash bonus, card, and small piece of jewellery. But we always do. She's incredibly loyal, hardworking and a gem and we often tell her how much we value her.

If they didn't even give you a card that's pretty shit but I doubt it's a referendum on your performance (if it is, they're crap at being bosses and need better management skills). Most likely they are just distracted or disorganised some years. I'm not saying that's OK, but I wouldn't make it personal when it probably isn't.

MatildaonaWaltzer · 28/12/2020 20:12

That’s pretty awful. Is there any tiny chance that the parents are eg both front lines in COVID wards or politicians / otherwise utterly unusually swamped and just didn’t get organised? I don’t blame you for feeling piqued by that.

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Darklylookingdeeply · 28/12/2020 20:09

@flowerycurtain that sounds very thoughtful. I think this year particularly, I'm feeling like some sort of appreciation would have been nice. I'm not talking about gifts necessarily, even a heartfelt 'thank you' would have done it. I have gone obove and beyond all the bloody time.
On the up side, one of the children ran around collecting up things to give me when I gave them their gifts!

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flowerycurtain · 28/12/2020 19:38

That's shit. Did the kids not even make you a card?

I have a p/t hol nanny and topped up her wages to the nearest hundred plus a make up set I thought she would like.