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Jazsullfan1 · 29/11/2020 18:33

Hi all.

So an incident took place this week and my childminder didn’t disclose it to me. When I picked my Son up he disclosed his events of what happen he was not upset and I didn’t think much of it. We were on our way home and I didn’t know what to say and at the time I didn’t think it was a big deal. The childminder I was was due to be finishing work in the next 5 weeks anyway. It’s a newish arrangement around 7 weeks she has been working for me.

I run the situation by some friends and they were disgusted by what went on.

So the incident was that CM broke down just as she left my house. The CM allegedly banged on the steering wheel and said “I’m going to get a flaming ticket”. DS then went on to ask if “they were going to walk to school” I assume this annoyed the CM at that moment in time and she told DS to “shut up”.

Personally I don’t think it’s the end of the world because nobody is perfect but i txted the CM and to cut a LONG story short she denied saying shut up and she did admit to getting a ticket... she down played the situation and she said it was only 5 mins! (Which I believe to be true that the breakdown wasn’t long)

I’m annoyed with how she’s been so unprofessional and really rude when I challenged her on this and she’s turned it round on me saying she no longer feels comfortable to come to my house (she usually starts from 7pm sleeps overnight) and local school run in the morn.

Am I missing something here? Should the CM of disclosed the issue rather waiting for DS to come back and say who is 6.

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Twickerhun · 29/11/2020 18:39

I don’t really get the scenario here. I think if (as a general rule) my childminders car broke down and she got a ticket I wouldn’t expect this to be disclosed to me as a parent. It’s not like my child got someone or fell over. It’s very hard to know how reasonable your messages to her were and her responses to you - non of us can advise on that as there is so little info here.

ShirleyPhallus · 29/11/2020 18:37

I’m not sure what you wanted her to tell you? That she broke down and got a ticket? Why might she have told you that - it doesn’t impact her childminding abilities at all. Perhaps only if your child was late to school but your OP isn’t clear.

So the only thing that’s up to dispute is if she told your DS to shut up or not. Is it possible he misheard?

If she didn’t say that then I’m not surprised she feels uncomfortable in your house. Can you get someone else for the next 5 weeks? A childminder who sleeps over sounds pretty rare tbh.