Parents insisting you cm a child with contagious illness who is very poorly

Where is the child now?

Rainbow it's like they don't value their child let alone you as his CM

Having just read the OP I would be very tempted to say fine, end of me working for you.

rainbow - poor you, don't we CMs have to put up with some crap from parents!!! I had my first ever fall out with a parent recently because her 9 month old baby had a temp of 39.9, was really ill, crying, wasn't eating or taking bottles etc and she couldn't believe I was trying to get her sent home. She bullied me and you know what....little miss nicey nice 'yes mam 3 bags full mam' Looneytune SNAPPED.......I said 'by the way, you know that a nursery would send her home for MUCH less than I do' and she said 'yes, that's why i won't use a nursery ' and I said 'fine, feel free to look at other CMs, I will be VERY interested if you manage to find someone else who would let her stay when this poorly' and went on to explain exactly why I couldn't keep her. I was shaking but do you know what....when she finally picked her up, she acted normal and has been ultra smiley and chatty as if nothing happened!!! It took a lot for me to snap like that but I'm so glad I did!

I totally agree with what everyone else has said, I'm fuming on your behalf and tbh, with people talking to me like that, I'd give notice asap anyway. And yes, they can't NOT pay you - they are just trying it on!!!

One tip I got from someone recently...if they refuse to collect.....'ok then, I'll call an ambulance instead' She was deadly serious, she'd say this (works in pre-school, SAZ knows the person and said about how children are at risk of convulsions with temp over x so if parents won't collect, she WILL call an ambulance)

here you go online small claims court thingy.

I agree with Lulu tbh if they don't end the contract I think I would.

Tell em to go and get stuffed. I'm stunned that they would NOT want to be with their sick child. FGS. Utterly .

then let them end the contract.

too bad, so sad.

yes, i feel sorry for people who are under pressure from work like that.

but you know what, rainbow, that is not your problem.

your problem is what is best for all your mindees, and caring for a very ill child ins't.

what if he fell really, really ill under your care?

these people could sue you, you could face charges, etc.

NO WAY is that worth their patronage.

i'd take them to small claims court.

i think either way, the working relationship is ruined, let them find someone else they can take advantage of. how obnoxious.

What are you going to do then? We're all here and clearly minders and parents all think the same way, so you can be assured that whatever she says, we'll give you an answer!

I am astounded that any mother/parent would be okay to leave a child that is still ill with anyone not family -no offence to you intended at all.

A child that has a temp and is barely eating????

I would call her bluff too, even to the point of say that you'll end the contract if they don't pick him up. They would have trouble finding childcare for him next week if he's got CP, no other CM/nursery would take him till clear!! If he's got it really bad should be at home with parents having lots of cuddles. Why do we put up with all this rubbish from parents!!

call their bluff, bloody disgrace, Iwould then also keep a eye out for a replacement mindee.

I have never given notice to a mindee, but have a few parents IYKWIM.

how is she corresponding this info to you?, i would ring her/text?, tell her your contract says xy &z, you (presumably?) spoke to other parents about them coming when your dd had cp and your dd did not need one to one care where as her 2yr old baby DOES.
say if she does wish to go back on the contract she signed, then ultimatly that is her descision and you will invoice her for her notice period mentioning that as she signed in agreement to this, she is legally bound and you do not want this to become nasty(are you with ncma, did you use thier contrcts?, they reinterate all this and will take this on for you)..good luck, let us know how it go's

Possibly over-dramatic, too, but... CP can be dangerous (very rare, but the toddler son of a friend of mine died from complications that set in very quickly). He should be with his parents.

What utterly selfish people. Do mention that they'll be in breach of contract if they refuse to pay. As they're saving they won't want to spend the money on fighting it.

Oh FGS! Call their bluff rainbow! This is just bullying tactics! I love the " let down" line...Wonder if they feel let down by child for contracting bl**dy illness!!!!!!! Honestly some people!

Blimey Rainbow, thats awful! She hasn't got a leg to stand on though! I undestand where she's coming from with your dd, but I assume you advised them she had CP and gave them the option of bringing him or not? I'd contact your advisor for info tbh. Its just not on!

definitely dont take him until spots have crusted over -that is what our nursery would do - some kids get it very badly and feel lousy

i am sure you would find a new client

they obviously have no idea what they are doing poor kid

Also presumably they had the choice of not sending their ds to you (without charge) when your dc had CP, ie you told them and they choose to still send him!

Read up on the possible complications of CP in contact with pg women and it will make you more determined not to have mindee while he is contagious also you cxannot carry on with normal activities with a child with cp - toddlers groups etc which is unfair on you and the children you mind. They are legally bound to pay you the notice period, give her the number for NCMA helpline and they will tell her on your behalf. You are in the right stay strong and if she takes mindee out of your care then she is being ridiculous. A nursery wouldn't put up with this treatment. Am very on your behalf.

I think you just have to call their bluff, remind them that they signed the contracts. I really do not think I would want them as long term parents with an attitude like that.

Also remind them that CP can be dangerous one of mine ended up hospitalised because of it. Because I had been caring for her I knew that she hadn't slept etc etc for 48 hours and that there was something very wrong. Cp is not just some harmless virus.

rainbow that's terrible, sounds like they are trying to bully you into taking their child and assuming you wouldn't chase them for the notice money.

I'd stick to your guns and say absolutely no problem if they wish to terminate the contract, and should the notice money not be forthcoming you will pursue the matter through the small claims court.

The small claims court is easy to do now, you can do it online.

what about if one of the mums of the other mindees is pregnant and not immune? remote possibility given that the other mindees have had it already, but you never know. it's really not just about the other children, but also about adults that the infectious child may come into contact with.

apart from that, if the child is clearly ill, surely the best place for him is with one of his parents.