I have had an au pair for the first time for about a month. I am a single mum so when she started I would invite her to have the odd glass of wine or two with me in the evenings. Then she took to opening bottles herself and drinking the lot. When she necked 2 bottles of my boyfriend's cider I finally blew and asked her to replace them and buy her own in future. She did replace them and seemed to be doing this but I have been monitoring the bottles and she has been sneaking bits here and there. She finished a half bottle of wine yesterday. It has not been overly excessive and she was babysitting for me yesterday so I feel slightly mean to pick her up on a few glasses of wine but I am still outraged. Has anyone else had this problem with au pairs. I want to check it is not normal to provide your au pairs with alcohol before I blow my stack!