to start with, the positives: she's easy-going, flexible and seems to enjoy spending time with ds1
but she's pretty slack on some things, and quite dippy
e.g. not thorough on nappy changes - leaves bits of poo - ds1 then gets sore. doesn't tighten lid on beaker - spills everywhere. forgets to wipe down table after meals. forgets to tidy up before going home. ironed dirty clothes!
i pick her up on things when i feel it's appropriate but don't want her to feel as though she's under constant scrutiny
should i just relax and think of the bigger picture, or would you expect her not get these types of thing wrong?