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What is stopping you from getting a Nanny?

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Scarletbailey5 · 02/02/2020 22:29

Hi all, I am a new mum to my third with a significant gap from my first! I have been researching child care, and from all studies to do with connection, attachment and raising other people’s children, a nanny seems the ideal option - a sort of stand in us?

My friends and family haven’t been too keen on this, some of them think it’s unnecessary and that my child would be fine in a local crèche.

Have you got a nanny? Would you have one? If you want one but dont have one, what are your reasons for not having one?

Love some thoughts...

Thanks x

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ColouredPolkaDots · 02/02/2020 22:45

Without a doubt, safety.

I've worked in various nurseries and all had strict safeguarding measures in place. Obviously you hope no caregiver would harm a child but in all nurseries I experienced, it really would've been impossible for someone to harm a child, parent or staff. A nanny has a lot of opportunity to harm a child if they chose to. In no way am I saying a nanny would harm your child but it's a chance I wouldn't take. Same as there's only 3 adults in the world I'd trust with my DS alone that aren't me.

OhNoMyCheds · 02/02/2020 22:38

I am not really sure about nannies.

Putting aside the cost, which is obviously a major factor!

They aren’t OFSTED registered and don’t follow the EYFS the same way that childminders and nurseries do, so they could be not really stimulating your child throughout their care. I have never liked the idea of being dependent on just one person for childcare, if she goes sick or any other unplanned absence you’re a bit stuffed. Also, in terms of child safety I just feel happier with my child in a nursery setting.

LowcaAndroidow · 02/02/2020 22:37

Cost, and I don't want to be an employer and responsible for payroll, tax deductions, maternity pay, holiday, sick leave and all that kind of thing!

turnthebiglightoff · 02/02/2020 22:37

Obviously cost. But you knew that!

FoxtrotSkarloey · 02/02/2020 22:35

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Iggly · 02/02/2020 22:34

Surely cost for most people!

LilyPinkNoah · 02/02/2020 22:34

Money!!!

MrsBungle · 02/02/2020 22:33

Money. A nanny would be great. No having to get the kids out of the house. Flexible hours and no rushing to get to nursery before closing. Couldn’t afford it though!

Goostacean · 02/02/2020 22:31

Safety issues; no one there to supervise safety or prevent abuse, whereas nurseries have more safeguards in place (although obviously nothing is ever guaranteed!).

inwood · 02/02/2020 22:30

Money.

PotteringAlong · 02/02/2020 22:30

If you want one but dont have one, what are your reasons for not having one?

I can’t afford it

Sunshineand · 02/02/2020 22:30

I guess cost is the obvious main issue. Nannies aren't cheap!

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