Basically have a 15 month old who's been going to childminder 3 days a week for about 6 months. Felt like things were going well and dd happy to go in etc.
There have just been a couple of things that have niggled me and I don't know if I'm being unrealistic about expectations. When I signed up with her she told me she tried to do activities with them, like painting, drawing, picnics in summer etc. To my knowledge none of that happened. Dd spends most of the day in and out of the car on various school pick ups and nursery drop offs etc. Which I understand is part of the deal with a childminder. In the other parts of the day I'm pretty sure there's a lot of screen time as any time she send a video she's watching tv or iPad. When I go in to collect her she's usually in high chair like a zombie glued to the screen and kicks at me when I go to pick her up.
Few weeks ago I walked in and childminder didn't hear me entering the house. It's quite a big space but there is a play room at the front which I walked into and my then 14 month old was in a corner sucking her dummy and pacing around while about 4 boys ranging from 3-8 ish were jumping around from sofa to sofa roughly and really could toppled her at any time.
Childminder then heard me and came in and said oh I was just in the kitchen for a second- but I could hear pots and pans on assuming it was her cooking dinner. Granted it was an exception as it was the day she had a Christmas get together but it just unsettled me.
Then she text me the day before returning after Christmas break and asked how are her nap times now which I said she usually sleeps from 11.30 til 1 and nothing has changed. She didn't mention anything else but then when I went to pick her up yesterday evening she told me she had a new pre schooler start and because of his drop off at 1, dd never got down to a nap until half 1 and then she had to wake her at 3. I just felt like she should have mentioned that to me before or at least told me she was taking a new child on and that it would disrupt my daughters routine and naps.
I don't know- am I expecting too much? This is my first child and I really don't know what should be appropriate. It just feels difficult when you're dropping off the most precious person in your life to someone who maybe hasn't been as fully upfront as she should have been with me, which then impacts the trust.