Have been watching the tempers flare about childcare options on a thread today which made me think about hopefully a better question on the same topic. Don’t argue that staying at home with your children is better/worse for them - makes them drug addicts/Einsteins or that nursery will make them wonderful or dreadful people - just ask yourself this - out of 7 days a week - how much time do you want to spend with your children from 0-5 (when they then start school). If it’s everyday - try and see if you can arrange/afford that? If you don’t want to spend everyday with them - think about how much do you want to be with them when they are little? and work the rest of the time beyond this. I don’t think it’s about churning out “better” children if someone’s at home or someone works - just answer yourself honestly - how much of the week do I want to be a full time caregiver?