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Aupair dilemma - anyone give some practical advice

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mishmash · 14/08/2007 19:23

New AP arrived 3 weeks. I had been in quite a bit of contact with her before her arrival so I suppose we knew each other before meeting.

She is a lovely girl but very forward. Her parents are coming to visit in October - we are away at the same time and I think she automatically assumed she would have my car and they could stay here. We need car ourselves for going to the airport and she offered to drive us there and leave the car at the airport on our return as she is going home with her parents for a few weeks.

I am half thinking of obliging her but I don't know her family and not sure I would be happy with them staying here when we are out of the country and it would mean having to put the dad on my insurance but then the other half of me feels that she is being a bit too cheeky.

Any thoughts

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Weegle · 14/08/2007 20:14

Think she's being cheeky TBH. You're not a free-ride. I would consider letting the parents stay if I had an extra spare room but no way to the car - imagine the hassle if they have an accident!

WanderingTrolley · 14/08/2007 19:40

You're not unreasonable to refuse her the use of the car in your absence, if she uses it for work purposes only.

Why would you have to put her father on the car insurance?

Ask her where her parents will be staying when they're here - offer to help her find a B&B if you'd rather they weren't staying in your house. Hopefully she'll get the hint.

scienceteacher · 14/08/2007 19:36

Yeah, I wouldn't want them in my bed. My aupair has a double, so parents can sleep there, and aupair can go into one of the girls' beds.

scienceteacher · 14/08/2007 19:34

She's being cheeky. They can easily hire a car.

Personally, I would be happy for them to stay in the house, but not have one of our cars. However, she shouldn't assume anything.

NannyL · 14/08/2007 19:34

there is no way i would let anyone else drive my car

(well my dad is allowed and my daddy boss moves it around the driveway if necessary but that is about it!)

yes i think that is cheeky.

Also do you have another spare bedroom etc? If so maybe consider letting her have her parents stay, but if not, then i wouldnt be letting them sleep in your bed or anything like that either!