My daughter is 15 months old and has been going to a childminder for 2 months now, one day a week, I was really happy, she seemed happy, my daughter seemed happy.
A couple of weeks ago she had problems getting her to nap, she was taking 20 minutes to settle and then only sleeping for 20 minutes. She settles beautifully at home in her cot, and sleeps for two hoursish normally. My mum also has her for one day a week and she sometimes doesn’t nap well for her either.
The last couple of weeks she’s been saying at pick up that she’s had a hard day, my daughter isn’t happy, crying and wanting to be picked up/carried a lot, she’s obviously tired. My daughter is what I would describe as a slightly ‘higher needs’ child, she won’t play independently, needs to be in the same room as me constantly, I can’t so much as pop up stairs to grab something without her melting down, but I thought this was fairly normal for a 1 year old?
However the childminder is now saying she feels ‘unable to meet her needs’ and give her the attention she needs and even ‘joked’ about her needing a nanny. She said at pick up she feels with the other children, her own two year old and another two year old, she’s just unable to give her that attention.
My daughter has definitely formed a bond and seems really fond of her, but I feel like I’ve failed a bit as a parent? Or my daughter isn’t like other 1 year olds.
Do I move her? I’m worried that would unsettle her more... also that the new provider would be wary.
I work shifts so the flexibility the childminder was able to give us was perfect.