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Nanny not suitable for twins

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Namechange4413 · 01/04/2019 17:31

Hi i employed a part time nanny a couple of years ago and shared her hours with another family until our twins were born. I am now due to return to work in July but I can see over the last few months when she has done mostly sole days with our son (her other family work is almost complete) that she isn’t the right choice for looking after more than one child and especially twins. We have been employing her for 2.5 years via a share and now almost in a sole basis but I feel terrible telling her that I just don’t feel she is right for us now, can anyone offer any advice?

Happy to go into a bit more detail on why but some of it is a bit long winded, none of it disciplinary.

Thank you

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AuntMarch · 01/04/2019 19:12

If you are only seeing her doing one to one stuff with your older DC, you can't know from that how she would be with all 3. As a practitioner you adapt to the child/children you are caring for.
Without knowing your reasons for feeling this way, my first thought is that I would start paying her for a day a week earlier on perhaps to start building that relationship so you can hopefully be reassured.

If you are definite I'm your decision though do it sooner rather than later, while you can take care of your son yourself until you find the right person for the job, you don't want to have to uproot him from one relationship to another, to potentially another if the next doesn't work out either.

MolyHolyGuacamole · 01/04/2019 19:05

Well as is a nanny share, you could say that you would just rather do sole charge now, due to the fact that you'd rather someone focus on just your children as you think it's too many, and suggest they find another family to fill the share. A nanny doing a share would rather keep earning the money than take a pay cut to do sole charge work anyway, so I'm sure she won't be too upset about it for long, nor would she want to work sole charge just for you