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I'm a nanny, how do I tell my boss I'm pregnant?

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Itsallwhite · 11/11/2018 11:40

I'm freaking out about this! My boss is not someone who I can approach. Working for them is stressful already and this is just going to be awful! What am I going to do?

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panago · 22/11/2018 03:21

Did they get back to you @Itsallwhite?

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Itsallwhite · 19/11/2018 18:50

I'm going to write them an email and ask about redundancy pay and see what they say

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nannynick · 19/11/2018 18:04

They do cannot simply say that the job has come to an end and not pay redundancy pay. Redundancy pay is a Statutory payment, which subject to eligibility, you are entitled to under law. If they refuse to pay you can take them to employment tribunal.

gotmybigbootson · 19/11/2018 17:01

They still have to pay.

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Itsallwhite · 19/11/2018 13:58

I'm feeling so stressed, but it's so kind of you to ask. A family I used to work for has told me they must pay me redundancy. So I'm going to bring it up with them when I can. They are away tonight so hopefully tomorrow. But I think they are going to say no as the job has come to an end and that's just what happens in nanny roles

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gotmybigbootson · 19/11/2018 13:47

I've done jobs exactly like that in London, Dorest, Cornwall, Wales and the Cotswolds.

hibbledibble · 19/11/2018 13:41

Op how are you doing? It sounds very stressful indeed, but if the employers are this bad, then surely a blessing in disguise?

Have you taken advice around what you are entitled to in terms of redundancy pay?

I wonder where is the UK it is the norm to not work and have a 60 hour a week nanny and housekeeper.

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Itsallwhite · 14/11/2018 09:16

*it's making me feel so stressed

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Itsallwhite · 14/11/2018 09:15

I'm in the UK and it's very much the norm around here. The messages come up on my locked screen. Never had anything to hide so I didn't really care before. First day back in and the mum is still in bed. I've taken the older children to school. Its amazing me feel very stressed

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CharlieandLolaCat · 13/11/2018 21:29

If it is redundancy they at least need to be talking to you about it (rather than doing it over email), following a process and then providing you with a redundancy payment.

Lwmommy · 13/11/2018 21:13

Youve been with them 4 years, doesnt that mean they need to make you redundant as you are past the 2 year mark?

buckeejit · 13/11/2018 21:09

Well I was going to say she must've read this thread but if she can access your phone, LTB!!

Congrats on the pregnancy - you really don't want this stress in your life. Contact the maternity action & see what they say. Good luck

AramintaJones · 13/11/2018 18:02

@dogwoofbark nahhh it's not pretty commonplace at all. Do you know what the word 'commonplace' means?

Hohocabbage · 13/11/2018 17:56

I suspect a very very small percentage of the UK population would fall into the category of having a full on nanny and a housekeeper! I would hope so anyway.

Hohocabbage · 13/11/2018 17:54

I’m not sure why you would even tell an employer at 6 weeks, unless you were having a lot of morning sickness I suppose so they might guess anyway.

Mishappening · 13/11/2018 16:43

Did they know you were pregnant before the email?

dogwoofbark · 13/11/2018 16:42

In London it's not 'quite unusual.' It's pretty commonplace.

AramintaJones · 13/11/2018 16:35

No, it IS unusual. As in, it's not the norm. Note that I didn't say it never happened.

dogwoofbark · 13/11/2018 16:33

@AramintaJones

Are you in the uk? She's a stay at home parents with a 60 hour a week nanny and a housekeeper? That's quite unusual.

No it's not. I've done many jobs exactly like that.

HarrietKettleWasHere · 13/11/2018 14:39

6 weeks? You were going to tell them really early. Are you seriously walking around having conversations about being pregnant at six weeks so that a housekeeper/camera could have picked it up? Why on earth would you not challenge someone who read your messages Confused
Or at least don’t leave your phone anywhere near them.

This doesn’t add up.

AramintaJones · 13/11/2018 14:30

Are you in the uk? She's a stay at home parents with a 60 hour a week nanny and a housekeeper?

That's quite unusual

AramintaJones · 13/11/2018 14:28

Err how does she look at a message coming through on your phone? All sounds very weird to me

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Itsallwhite · 13/11/2018 13:57

I'm 6 weeks and they could have. The house keeper is around so she could have heard me talking. There are also cameras in the house. Also if a message comes through on my phone the mum will look at it. So they could have known but even if they did I won't do anything about it i hate confrontation

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Hohocabbage · 13/11/2018 13:42

How far along are you?

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Itsallwhite · 13/11/2018 13:15

I told them I needed them to be back before 8 as I needed to talk to them. Before I could tell them they said they no longer needed me. (Maybe they knew I don't know). They have sent me another email saying that they are going to get an au pair. As the housekeep will take on the children's domestic duties there won't be much childcare for me but are giving me first refusal of the knew hours that will be between 10-30 hours pw. I work 60 so there's no way I can afford that! I also feel upset that they are doing all of this over email as I'm off. I dread going back tomorrow!

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