Hello everyone
Ended up having to say to our au pair that it wasn’t working 1/2 weeks ago ( number of things culminating in her saying she’d would never work any Fri/Sat/Sun evening ( I’d asked for 2 in a 4 month period, xtra pay etc).
Anyway I’m now really struggling to deal with still having her in the house. I’m a single parent so the only other adult which doesn’t help, but she is just being extremely difficult and is quite aggressive/argumentative in approach ( she is 27 so not a young girl). Obviously not helping at all now with anything like washing dishes/tidying after the kids/clearing up after herself. Also am now having to pay for an after school nanny as the last 2 afternoons she had the kids I came back and the house was completely destroyed - bathrooms flooded, toilet rolls down toilets, every single room trashed, all bookcases emptied etc. She was there with the kids playing and screeching in all the mess ( admittedly the kids should also know better - they are 4 and 6), encouraging them. She then just clocked off and didn’t help tidy at all.
I’ve obviously offered to pay all her notice and her flight home, but as she wants to find another position she is refusing to leave ( I had 4 weeks notice - she also then wants me to pay her flight at the end).
I’ve had au pairs in the past and nannies and always, I hope, treated them well. I honestly feel like I cannot bear to have her in the house for another week and a half.