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Help, my new nanny is a bit shouty, and I'm worried, and would like advice on how to handle it

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PrincessPeaHead · 31/05/2007 11:46

My lovely calm, quiet, loving nanny of 5 years left last week, and a new nanny started. She is NNEB, worked in a nursery (baby room) most recently, nannied for 2 children before that. She's now been with us for just over a week.

I'm a little worried about how she interacts with the children. She has been playing quite well with DD1 (9), and has been givena very hard time by DD2 (16 months) who screams at strangers generally and hasn't settled with her yet (screamed constantly yesteerday morning when I went to the supermarket apparently). DS1 (6) has been OK with her, DS2 (3) had his tonsils and adenoids out last Tues and was feeling rotten until this weekend.

She is a bit of a sargeant major - issues orders and won't brook any discussion at all, even when it would be (I think) completely reasonable to listen to what they are saying. eg she was asking them to go upstairs for a bath - we have two staircases to go up, and DS2 wanted to go up the other one to the one she was asking him to go up - and she was raising her voice and saying "DS2, I have asked you to go up to your bath and you need to go up these stairs NOW". I don't see why he couldn't have gone up the other ones if he wanted to. There are lots of other examples - I don't think I heard my last nanny raise her voice more than about 2ce (usually in situations where I would have strangled them hours previously!), whereas raising her voice appears to be this nannies MO.
My 9 year old has asked me why she shouts so much
My housekeeper has told me she is concerned.

What do I do?

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berolina · 03/06/2007 21:28

('here' as in 'on the thread, not 'on MN' - gah)

berolina · 03/06/2007 21:28

Say exactly that - you're not right for us and we're not right for you - because that's what the issue is, isn't it? (haven't posted here before but have read the thread).

Good luck!

PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 21:15

Ok everyone, my work tomorrow has been postponed to another day which leaves me free and clear to sack the nanny

so what do I say? This isn't working out, I can't get past you leaving DD in the garden near the paddling pool, I think you are a really nice person but you aren't the right nanny for us and we aren't the right family for you?

HELP please!

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PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 21:02

I hope you noticed that I managed to cover cod with cowshit in that one

was rather proud of that

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JoolsToo · 03/06/2007 20:29

too too beastly of you.

magnificent!

Dogsby · 03/06/2007 20:24

oi pph what an arse.

hatwoman · 03/06/2007 20:18

who's minty? quite amusing. for a blog.

Califrau · 03/06/2007 20:17

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PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 20:15

ahem, Jools, Minty appears to have posted on her blog....

here

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PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 19:06

ooooh Jools, flattery will get you EVERYWHERE

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JoolsToo · 03/06/2007 18:45

but you're so clever and have such a vivid imagination.

go on, you know you want to.

or was it just a fad?

PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 18:30

snap

Jools - I haven't written it for such ages I don't know Where To Start

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PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 18:29

can't quite work out if it is you, the nanny, the car or the M4 that is black ha ha

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Tutter · 03/06/2007 18:29

tis the car that is black, not me, btw

JoolsToo · 03/06/2007 18:29

will I ever learn what happened with the Wales's?

Tutter · 03/06/2007 18:28

no, pph, i was the other obnoxious nanny-employing-4x4-driving (black) driver giving the M4 (and all its post-holiday knackered families) my utmost attention

PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 18:27

he he he

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WelshBoris · 03/06/2007 18:27

Yes it is PPH, I'm so relieved you're not mad at me for revealing the truth.

3 more years til the big 100 eh? Bet he cant wait.

Ripeberry · 03/06/2007 18:26

HA,HA,HA, Welshboris, good try.

PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 18:26

Tutter we probably passed on the M4 just now.
You weren't the silly bint in the red car TYPING TEXTS while driving between bristol and bath I hope?

Nearly called the police

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Tutter · 03/06/2007 18:26

ps though i did think i saw her driving her mahosive 4x4 out of the Ringland this morning - praps visiting her dear old aunt

WelshBoris · 03/06/2007 18:26

I'm sorry Tutter, I might ask MNHQ to delete my post but I think ripeberry had a Right To Know.

PrincessPeaHead · 03/06/2007 18:25

Welshy is Tonypandy near Pontypandy (of Fireman Sam fame?) If so, DS2 will be DELIGHTED to learn his roots, he is dying to go to Pontypandy and meet Sam, and Elvis, and Naughty Norman Price

Yes, tis all true. And my DH and I have celebrated our 10th anniversary... he is in marvellous shape for a man of 97 I must say

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Tutter · 03/06/2007 18:25

wb

pph is going to be so pissed off with you

i know you did it for the right reasons, but revealing her past to all and sundry is just Not On

WelshBoris · 03/06/2007 18:23

Ripeberry I'll tell you the truth.

PPH is from Tonypandy, she worked in the Spar on Rhondda Street. One day a very rich older man came in looking for directions as he had got lost on his way to Cardiff.

Their eyes met over a tin of value baked beans, he whisked her off in his limo and they moved to England.

Because he was 87 he couldn't have children so they adopted 4 from Botswana.

I think she has every right to brag about her money after the life she has had.She sends money home to her family in Tonypandy each month and opened a fete in Pentrebach last month as she has celebrity status in South Wales.

Good for her.