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C/M's, help me not feel bad about charging for bank holidays..

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crace · 02/04/2007 08:14

I really don't want to spark a "you aren't working, you shouldn't charge" debate here. I know most c/m's charge for bank holidays, and I presented an invoice for the month with those dates on as normal rate.

The mum questioned it this morning, and perhaps I should have had a better answer, but I just said it's normal procedure amongst most c/ms. In fact I remember being surprised when my old c/m charged me.

I still feel bad though.

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maximummummy · 03/04/2007 23:02

well i charge half rate on bank holidays BUT am available @ £5 p/h if needed.I also charge full rate for my holidays (4 weeks) and half rate for theirs (upto 4 weeks)don't charge if i can't work due to sickness and half rate if they're ill.This was all made clear and agreed on when drawing up contracts so there can be no arguing with it !! also i would've charged full rate bank hols except that's one of reasons mum left previous minder. if it was all in the contract they signed you shouldn't feel guilty. ENJOY THE DAY OFF.[GRIN]

crace · 03/04/2007 17:18

Well it certainly is not my intention to take advantage of anyone, due to lack of care or not. Frankly just not cut out that way but I can see your point.

The dad came to pick up today and we had a chat about it. He said they'd pay as they are so happy but found it unusual - they didn't pay at nursery, and I believe them. So I guess that's that but I certainly don't feel good about it. He did say you need to be ruthless to be selfemployed.. kind of made me laugh, as I am sure he wouldn't want me to be ruthless. They are great people to have as mindees parents - just glad it's worked out.

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islandofsodor · 03/04/2007 16:28

To be totally honest the way I as a self emplyed person look at any sort of fee charging is on a supply and demand basis.

In m y line of business we charge decent fees for a very high quality service and people will pay that. They would not pay for days where the service is not provided, they would go to a competitor instead.

If there is minimal competition and you know that you will keep your mindees then by all means set your charges accordingly (though do make sure parents signing up know this). As a parent I personally would go elsewehere, but then again where I live I have several options.

Some of the minders on here possibly have a situation where there is a shortage of good childcare, you need to balance out your situation.

crace · 03/04/2007 06:44

OK, not happy with it really.. will have a word with the mum this morning and see what she wants to do, as it's not worth it coming between me and the only mindee I have full time.

I am still very new at this so it's trial and error, and obviously both of them are upset about it so it's not worth it.

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ucm · 02/04/2007 23:54

HOpe you don't mind me butting in here. But on various childminding threads I have heard many CM's say that the parents are not employing you. You are self employed. Therefore, you are not entitled to paid holiday IMO.

I do not think of my CM as my employee in anyway whatsoever, and she doesn't charge for Bank Holidays, the same as my husband doesn't get sick pay, holiday pay etc as he is self employed.

twoisenoughmum · 02/04/2007 23:50

Just to add another pov: I approached a childminder to look after my 2 dcs. I wasn't working at the time, I was a student. I just needed 1 day a week child-free to enable me to study. The only day she had a vacancy was Mondays. So I agreed, but then had to pay all her bank holidays, at £70/day for the two of them when I was unwaged (she knew this). She never worked on a bank holiday.

So after a year I moved the children to another childminder.

I think if you can be flexible, it would help.

If you know the parents have a paid day off for bank holidays, then by all means charge them. If they don't, then perhaps you could come to some other arrangement?

mogs0 · 02/04/2007 23:43

I don't charge for BH as I wouldn't want to work them but I agree with lots of the other posts and I think you're completly justified charging them (does that make sense?!). I tried to give mindee1's Mum a refund for next Monday and she refused point blank! They also pay me over Christmas as a bonus as my holidays are supposed to be unpaid.

Rebi - I think your post was lovely and you sound very much like one of "my" Mums! I'd also like to be put on a waiting list for your dc!!!

motherinferior · 02/04/2007 22:01

My childminder charges full rate for bank holidays, half rate when she is on holiday, full rate if we're on holiday and she's working. I completely agree with her. And yes, I'm self-employed too - but those are her terms, and I respect her for sticking to them.

fizzipop · 02/04/2007 21:59

my first CM charged for BH's which I thought was cheeky as one of the draw backs of being self employed is that you don't get holiday payb etc..... My new CM (the other one moved away) doesn't charge for BH. We still pay when we are on holiday, but not when she is on holiday, which I think is fair.

ThePrisoner · 02/04/2007 21:56

crace - I don't think you are wrong - I'm just one of the "old school" who never charged for bank holidays! I think all the new information and guidelines (including NCMA) say that you should charge for bank holidays.

I was only asking my question for interest, only because this is something I would have to explain to one of my families if I decided to charge (which I won't be anyway!).

crace · 02/04/2007 21:31

So am I right or wrong doing this then? Because then I own the parents and apology and money..

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ThePrisoner · 02/04/2007 21:20

If you charge for bank holidays but are not available for work, how do you explain this to parents who still have to work on bank holidays?

I've never charged for bank holidays - it wasn't done locally when I first registered, and I really don't have a problem not charging even now. I do have minding parents who work bank holidays though, so still need childcare (they have to use friends and family).

TheIronLady · 02/04/2007 21:06

Same as mumlove - dont charge for hols but do charge for bank hols

islandofsodor · 02/04/2007 21:02

As a parent I wouldn't pay it unless you were available to mind in which case I would probably use you on some bank holidays.

I am self employed on Mondays though. Childmonders are self employed and providing a service.

I don't get charged bank holidays at nursery as they are not open. We get charged our holidays but not the 2 weeks at Christmas that nursery closes.

crace · 02/04/2007 14:43

The dad came to pick her up today and he was really off with me - I wrote a note saying that I didn't want it to come between us and if it's that much of an issue I would let it go.

Blech, why can't it just be about the children??? I hate the money side of this, honestly.

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dmo · 02/04/2007 14:23

parents pay me for bank hols but i have let one parent off this time as her dd comes to me mon and fri and i feel bad getting paid from her. must be getting soft

NannyL · 02/04/2007 10:56

im sure the mum is being paid for bank holiday like everyone else who is employed

can see it not being likes if parenst are self employed (like childminders) and wont get paid themselves though

KickingEasterAngel · 02/04/2007 09:23

i pay nursery the same every month, regardless of whether dd is there or not - for whatever reason, they can't fill the place with other children if she's not there, and i'mm paid every month.
would be different if it was a child you had occasionally, who just paid per hour, but not a regular child.

crace · 02/04/2007 09:17

EM - Digging over our garden will be part of the day for the LO's! I have baby spades, trowels and shovels all ready for the purpose, though I am lucky to have it in my own garden.

They are starting their own bean and tomato plants this week too as part of Spring learning. We are well into the self sufficiency movement (greenies) so growing our own veg/fruit is a highlight of our summer so the mindees will be joining in the fun, and reaping the benefits by bringing theirs home.

Roll on summer!

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Earthymama · 02/04/2007 09:12

I always send out a letter saying we will be making Spring/Easter type things, asking for appropriate clothes as it can still be cold desopite the sunshine (otherwise no coats and I'm still wearing my scarf and gloves), raise any other issues and THEN I include
'I will not be working on BH, though as agreed in our contract, I will still be paid for these hours'
Then I wish every one a Happy BH.
It seems to work well.
(I'm hoping to have an extra day next week as I've got an allotment now and am hoping to have a chance to do some digging!! I think I am a masochist!!)

crace · 02/04/2007 09:02

Phew, thanks - I was afraid I was going to start a debate. I guess I shouldn't feel bad, it's all over my policies too but I didn't think that it would be such a big deal. She's getting paid and having both days off.. it's just one of those things.

I think I will just print off a copy of my hours/fees for her as she mentioned not being able to find anything about it.

ACK! I hate confrontation.

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Earthymama · 02/04/2007 09:00

Rebi, we will all be asking to have your details and hoping you live near us!!
I'm lucky with my parents but some-one always comments about BH, having to pay while at pre-school or when they have days off.

Rebi · 02/04/2007 08:53

I think that's the difference. I have experienced the other side!! It is beyond me how parents don't see the connection with treating their childminder well and having a good relationship which benefits everyone. My childminder is flexible with me because she knows I don't take advantage. Although I did have another childminder before who took that to mean that I was a soft touch and she tried to stick the arm in big time. So it works both ways I suppose. (I looked for another childminder!)

You all do a trully amazing job and you should be appreciated for the role you perform for your families.

saltire · 02/04/2007 08:47

Rebi - why can't all parents have the same attitude as you?
Like looneytune, the only people who have ever been like that with me are people who ahve previously been CM's

looneytune · 02/04/2007 08:44

My goodness Rebi - if only all parents were like you! In fact, the only person who was ever like that with me had been a childminder before too!