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From a parents point of view please.... PAYING your nanny!

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NannyL · 25/03/2007 13:42

Ok just wondering views on this!
Ive been in my job 6 months now and its perfect and i LOVE it in everyway. my bosses are great and its 3 mins from my home! ALL perfect EXCEPT they still havant paid me for february!
Also since starting there in september i have never been paid on time! been paid on 16th twice, 9th once 19th once and 4th once, and its now the 25th and i STILL havent been paid!
Until this month EVERY time it REALLY WAS the banks fault! (im always 'good' and reasonable about it and just say dont worry, boss goes to bank, 'sorts' it and a week later moeny finally has left his account hung around in 'no-where-land' for a few days and arrived in My account.
BUT its now getting rediculouse.
To be fair this month i didnt mention it to my boss until 9th march BUT I WAS AWAY ON HOLIDAY so didnt have much chance (and surely its clear on their bank anyway?)
He (convinced it was the banks fault again) didnt actually even GO to the bank for a whole week but he went demanding they pay me THAT DAY but (for the 1st time it WAS actually HIS fault, he hadnt ticked a box or something). Anyway im really not worried that he made a mistake, he is after all only a person and we all make mistakes sometimes! it was apparently sorted last friday so £ should have made it into my account of thursday...
BUT they didnt so its now banks fault again. I didnt find out until i got home on thursday night and on Friday morning my boss left as i walked in and i didnt see them until 6pm ie after banks closed.
Im now getting REALLY REALLY frustrated... I have NEVER been paid later EVER in any other job ever before (been working as a nanny for over 7 years now!)
I figure after 6 months its really SHOULD be sorted right now shouldnt it? We both have internet banking after all and its 2007!
My mum thinks i should demand a chapps payment which will cost my bosses £30 when i go to work on tuesday (i dont work mondays)... is this fair? (i think so!)
My step dad thinks i shouldnt go in to work until im paid , but a) that is VERY unproffesional (and thats not how i am.... surely if i refused to go to work they would then refuse to pay me?)
b) its now the holidays and we have lots of exciting things planned that I am looking forward to!
c) if i dont go to work sick people eitehr dont have operations (if mb is at home) or dont have a GP to see for their appointments (if db is at home!)
BUT i have a mortgage etc to pay as well and i CANT AFFORD to not be paid much longer.
so if you were my boss what would u do? If i said go to bank now and pay me by chapps would you consider that unreasonable?
Also what about all the interest i havent earned on not having my money for a whole month?
so far in 6 months ive been paid 87 days late and counting

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renaldo · 25/03/2007 15:27

I am really horrified that you would look at your employer's bank statements - another reason I am so glad I dont have a nanny anymore!

Twiglett · 25/03/2007 15:26

I wouldn't wait to go into work .. I'd phone him now and ask for payment for February and March in cash as you are incurring bank charges

tell him that you have been as patient as possible and the situation is just totally unacceptable

it is lax and demonstrates a lack of respect that it has been 6 months and isn't sorted out

glassslipper · 25/03/2007 15:21

thats rubbish. you can set up your own standing orders if you have online banking. dont need to sign anything.

tell them you cant afford the delays. you are about to go overdrawn (even if not) and you will be unable to afford petrol/transport to get to your workplace if they cant pay you on time.

emarie · 25/03/2007 15:17

I'm sorry to hear about your problem, but I really can't believe you looked at their bank statements, even if they were left out. It's unlikely you're aware of all of their financial commitments anyway. Lots of people look at this site when they're considering whether to hire a nanny - don't discourage them.

NannyL · 25/03/2007 14:25

hatwoman!

thank you for your reply!

I KNOW they can affford me... once boss is a consultant another a locum GP so they can... and also things like bank statements are ocasionaly left around and i know they can afford me no problem!

I honestly genuinely belive the bank is extra-ordinarily Incompetant! (like my old bank... another story grrrrrr)

as it is amazingly im still not overdrawn just (but by the end of the week i will be) and havent had any charges yet.... but i COULD have done! Fell like working out all the hypothetical charegs and telling them that IF i havnt jiggeod my other £ around it would have cost me £x. (im hopeless at lying and there is no way i could say i have been chraged when i havent!)

I do however have an account that pays me proper good interest (as long as im paid) and now for 2 months i will forfit my good interst raTE (AND INTEREST) due to money not having enetered my account in march which is NOT my fault!

Also i hate talking about money stuff! which i know is silly! as much as i love looking after my 2 boys i do do it to be paid and not as a favour lol!

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hatwoman · 25/03/2007 14:15

that was meant to say: by standing order

hatwoman · 25/03/2007 14:14

totally not on. I have always paid my standing order and have never had a problem like this. either their bank is extra-ordinarily incompetent or they are bull-shitting you and it's their fault. once - in 4 years of having a nanny our standing order bounced because we'd gone over the od limit - it went into the account about 3 days late and I paid the nanny the £30 she was charged for going over her limit. if you've incurred any costs because of this then they really should pay. I know you're an experienced nanny who probably knows better than me how to broach things - but fwiw my advice would be that you have to broach it in a very clear way. tell them that you really can't continue with this sort of uncertainty, ask them to pay any costs you've incurred (that will shake them up a bit) and tell them that you consider the next 3 months a trial period and if you;re not paid on time every month you'll have to consider looking elsewhere - I doubt very much this will backfire - they need a kick up the arse. The only possible source of it backfiring is if they're actually going too much od each month and, in reality, can;t really afford a nanny - maybe they didn;t look into it properly re all the tax etc.

indiajane · 25/03/2007 14:01

This is a disgrace. Tell them that your mortgage payment bounced costing you £30 and that two cheques bounced at £20 fees each.

Ask them to reimburse you - and I'm sure they will never pay you late again.

NannyL · 25/03/2007 13:57

well i could...

but i don't have any time AT ALL this week (with or without the children) to go to the bank! (i have so much going on at the moment including close relative now being in hospital!)

and also i feel very strongly that in 2007 i really should not have to get up early on my saturday morning and que to go into town and pay to park just to be paid!

also i am NOT happy to carry that much cash around with me fullstop! and even if i was i doubt that the bank would let them withdraw that much cash without 'preordering' it 1st!

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Laura032004 · 25/03/2007 13:51

Can you not ask for them to pay you in cash for now? Even giving you a post-dated cheque on say the 25th of the month, that you could bank on the 30thwould be better than this. Definitely not on.

Greenshoots · 25/03/2007 13:47

It's not good enough, you have the right to be paid on time. Put your foot down NannyL. Your mumis right - insist they o something about this NOW - chapps payment douns good - and it doesn't happen again!!

NannyL · 25/03/2007 13:46

well every month it keeps being set up! (again)

every month it is supposed to be working now...

I really dont understand why it still isnt working...

my boss has been into the bank to complain SO MANY times.... every month actually!

every month "it is now set up 'properly' and will work next time"

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hunkermunker · 25/03/2007 13:44

As for from a parent pov - I don't have a nanny, but if I did, I'd bloody well make sure she was paid on time!

hunkermunker · 25/03/2007 13:44

Can't they pay you by standing order? I would be pissed off about this.

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