As a parent, would you find this too bossy?

Pull ups are great. I can change ds anywhere with him on his feet. In the woods, in fields, you name it. No faffing with mats etc. I wouldn't use childcare that required me to buy separate, special nappies just for them.

I chose a childminder over nursery because I wanted a more homely environment where ds would be able to maintain a similar routine to home, rather than having to fit into a nursey's way of doing things. It's the main attraction for me, and the way that ds runs to his childminder with a big smile on his face vindicates that decision. Having my choice of nappies or clothing dictated to me would definitely put me off, as I'd see you more like a small nursery-type setting. That said, best to get it upfront, I suppose!

Obviously early drop offs are not on, of course.

I'd find the no pull ups and no lace-up shoes too prescriptive, everything else is fine.

As pp have said above there's lots of valid reasons for pull ups (prefer to change standing up, less leaky, tabs are itchy etc etc) and lace up shoes (need to fit insoles, better ankle support etc)

My parents who like to use pull ups, use pull ups at home and are happy for me to use nappies. It wasn't a problem.

I discourage lace up shoes, because children are supposed to learn to be independent and unless they can tie laces then you are slowing them down in their dash for the garden. Even my 1 year olds can take off Velcro shoes and have a good go at putting them on. Laces also seem to be made of super slippery stuff these days which keeps coming on done when we are out on a walk

OP I use pull ups for my baby (have done since he was 8 months) because he literally will not stay still to be changed and they are 1000x easier to get on with than a nappy.

I would not be impressed if a cm told me what nappies to put my child in TBH.

The other stuff is fine.

Definitely include it. Speaking as an ex child minder it's always good to set these things out clearly beforehand rather than dithering about how to say things after they have started.

I think it's fine to outline reasonable requests. I don't think it's reasonable that you outline what kind of nappies/ pull-ups or shoes a child should wear though (unless you're buying & paying for them).

You may have a preference for certain things but I would not be happy if my childminder told me how to dress my children - I wouldn't take kindly to being told to change the types of nappies or shoes I'd chosen just to save you a. Purple of minutes. I'd like to think to think my childminder would be able to put in the time and care to support my child with changing/ dressing etc. If there were silly rules like this I would certainly be put off - I think people often choose a childminder over a nursery so that the child m/ children can build a closer caregiver relationship but being told my childminder didn't like pull-ups because it takes an extra minute to change them and didn't like tying laces etc would make me feel they saw changing/ dressing etc as a conveyor-best process and didn't see it as an opportunity for developing my child.

You can rip the sides of pull ups. I used pull ups from 6 months as they were the only nappies that didn't leak with DS. We never used lace up shoes but I agree with the other poster, I think some are reasonable requests, like labeling clothing, and some are a bit off.

It's good to be clear. Might be a tiny bit off putting. My first had to be in lace up boots, there was literally only 2 different styles, which had to be ordered, which would fit him. If this wouldn't work for you, I guess you're best of finding that out before you start.
Sounds a tad regimented. Do you give your reasons?

I think the idea of a frequently ask questions page would work well. Whatever works for you in your setting and gives you more time interacting with the children.

I work in a preschool and we all sigh when a child comes in with laces, not just because of the extra time it takes to sort out that one child, but because it takes some of the independence and therefore self-esteem away from the child too. Don't even get me started on sending them in in playsuits

Go for it. I work in a nursery and have heard many parents say "he's my first...nobody tells you...(insert apparently obvious thing here).

I'm with you on pull ups, unless they are toilet training it's a right pain. Nappies are much easier.

It's similar to what our nursery specifies, it wouldn't bother me.

I think you know what works in your setting OP, and so long as you are upfront parents can decide if it is the setting for them or not.

Sounds good to me. I would appreciate you being straight and up front.

I was one of the parents using pull ups from 9 months + - pigs would have flown before you managed to get a nappy on my DS
He hated it and used to bang his head repeatedly against whatever I was lying him on to change him, scream and kick. It was so much easier to whip off trousers, pull up, new pull up, do up vest again and put trousers back on, than to contend with the 15 minute battle that ensued at nappy time.
The rest sounds fine and obvious.

OP - none of that would bother me because it's all common sense but I have heard stories which mean I understand not all parents have this common sense/etiquette/general decency!

Some parents put children in pull ups so they can just pull them on and tear off for changing - nothing to do with potty training. In fact I'd argue using them for potty training makes even less sense!

Ok I would gently suggest to them that they are wasting their money then! Pull ups are more expensive.

But you can't say I can't be bothered to re dress your child without getting a reaction I don't think.

Surely the point of pull ups is to ease potty training!?

Naming clothes and early drop offs I would totally support you with. Lace ups are a bit of a grey area- I mean how long does it take to tie a double bow!?

I would be a bit about some of it.

If a parent is wanting to do pull ups I think that's a valid choice. I want a childminder who says 'great, I'll work with you to make potty training work' not 'I can't be arsed to take his shoes off'