As a parent, would you find this too bossy?

I'm amazed at the problems people seem to have with these requests from the childminder. I'd much rather my minder spent the time playing with children etc. than changing half undressing a child who wears only pull-ups or tying shoelaces.
Especially the nappies - it's invisible to the parent what nappies the child is wearing every day at the minders so what difference does it make?
The shoe thing I get is more annoying but I've had nursery ask me not to send my DD in in particular shoes as they're a pain to g et on (agree!) and it's not an issue, especially as they're on and off throughout the day depending on the activities

Tbh I'd think you hadn't got time to spend and that would bother me.

I'm way past this stage however I'd rather you told me the rules up front because then I could choose straight away to send my child somewhere where he / she is not an inconvenience to your day .

Re the pull-ups - not 'bossy' at all, I think. Parents supply you with nappies, yes? So they can buy their own stash of whatever-they-want for home.

I also think non-lace shoes are a sensible suggestion, but best to leave it as a sugggestion.

There's about £2 difference in price

I agree with Migra

It does come across as a bit bossy and pompous to be honest. The thing with a childminder is it's meant to be a home from home, not a school.

adapt my child, by changing the type of nappy they wear?. Well yes. Because I use a certain nappy because it suits my child. Not all nappies suit all children. Changing the type of nappy worn IS adapting a child to make the childminders day easier.

I'm not saying I don't think childminders should have certain things in pace, becaus obviously naming clothes is a sensible thing, but it would definitely put me off to be handed a list of dos and don'ts if it was to do with changing my child's nappy/clothing etc to suit someone else.

I would do exactly as you wish OP, no queries here

On the subject of Pull Ups, I recall seeing from afar my neighbour putting on a 'pull up on' her 2 yr old. Things is, I didn't know it was a pull-up, we had been using cloth. I thought, how clever, doing the tabs up first and then putting nappy on like pants. I had a 2 yr old also.

So I started doing up the tabs on any disposable nappy and making it into a pull-up.

I then saw friends using real 'pull-ups' up close, investigated, and then nearly fainted at the price.

Just do the tabs up first .

I don't expect everywhere to. But I want my childminder to fit in with my ways, in so much as that is practicable (and obviously that's not 100%), and chose someone on that basis.

If that's not what you offer, that's fine! Not everyone wants that from their childcare. If you are established etc then clearly you're offering something people want, and good for everyone involved. However, you asked for thoughts and those are mine.

Why, as a potential client, should I care what trousers your dd needs for Beavers?

You asked for thoughts - mine are that you would not be the best fit for what I want from childcare. Ds goes one afternoon a week - I'm not faffing about with separate nappies and perhaps new shoes and what have you for that. You obviously are right for other parents though.

I had same discussion with nursery and they said the same as you

adapt my child, by changing the type of nappy they wear? Or writing their name I their clothes? Hardly!

I'd actually appreciate this (if worded in a friendly way). It's much better to iron out these details up front. None of it seems particularly controversial either.

Oh god lace up shoes on toddlers are a pain. One of my lo's was constantly pulling the laces open, i seemed to be tying them every two minutes.

My nursery says clothes and shoes that are easy to put on and take off.

I do think it's better to be upfront but perhaps ask a couple of friends to check the list and give honest feedback.

Honestly? It would put me off. I look for a childminder who will suit my child. I don't want to adapt my child to make the childminders day easier.

The op says she "prefers nappies", not "I insist you use nappies or else!"

There's a lot of PFB going on in this thread.
You do realise most schools specify Velcro shoes? So all very well 2 year old PFB needing laces for development but it means bugger all when in reception and you'll be 'that parent' defying the rules by sending in PFB with laces and said PFB is 5 minutes behind his less well developed peers getting changed for break time.

I think it's fine op. I have a 19 month age gap and have had toddler groups 90 minutes long where both of mine have done 2 poos each!- pull ups with lace up shoes would have been a total pita. Whilst you're untying, undressing, changing then re dressing and re tying shoes of one child, the other is either messing about in a toilet or being watched by shoes me one else. The quicker the nappy change the better!The only thing with lace up shoes though is my dd would pull velcro ones off in the buggy so velcro were harder in that respect.

A good childminder is worth their weight in gold and as a parent if I could do a few things to make their lives easier then I would.

I would be OK with using pull-ups at home and nappies for the CM, I think. I used to give her a whole bag at a time so it wouldn't make any difference, unless I was using them as part of a potty training strategy, in which case I'd want the CM to be on board with it to keep it consistent.

Nursery's, not nursey's 🙄 Nursie was not involved in the drafting of my comment!

Even my 1 year olds can take off Velcro shoes which can be a very good reason for not using Velcro shoes. too.