As a parent, would you find this too bossy?

I tried to change a poo in a pull up once. Never again! It went everywhere 😣

Politely mentioning a preference is fine, making it a rule before entering the CMs house would strike me as bizarre.

Ok I genuinely don't understand why pull ups are any different to nappies.

Why are they?

One of the dc I mind has converse boots. They are a nightmare to get on a wriggling, non compliant small child. I mentioned to his dad what a nightmare they are to get on his feet and so they save them for home and Send me his proper shoes. Absolutely no problem at all. I'm not seen as bossy or uncooperative, he was genuinely glad I mentioned it as they don't want me to have to struggle and have admitted if they had known how difficult they were to get on they wouldn't have bought them in the first place.
Three nappies to change at a time, yes, pull ups are a pain (I don't generally take tights/trousers for nappy changes) but then I'm not really convinced about their help in potty training either so maybe the wrong person to ask about them really.

"OP bends over backwards to help parents with emergency care, early starts, late finishes, forgotten lunch boxes, etc. All she asks in return is a few things to make life easier for their children and god forbid herself. "

No, she's not helping by doing favours and asks one in return. She is providing a service and charges money for it in return. And she is stipulating a dress code, similar to a school, in detailing what type of nappies and footwear your child must have in her setting. She's not doing it for free

I'm with you OP. I'm an ex childminder. I'd say (if queried) that as you are likely to be changing several children it IS important to do it as quickly as possible so that you can get back to the other children.

I'm a nanny and agree with you totally on pull ups/laces etc.

You are also 100% right re. the rules weeding out the parents that will be a nightmare to work with.

Anyone who is obsessing over which nappy is most comfortable or getting all upset because they might have to pick up a pack of nappies AND a pack of pull ups instead of two packs of pull ups is going to be a nightmare to work with.

Anyone who can't understand why laces on a baby's shoes are a faff is not going to understand how group care works.

Anyone who thinks that making their childminder's life easier is a bad thing is bordering on unhinged!

As you say, there are enough 'normal' families to fill the spaces so you can happily exclude the less understanding and cooperative ones.

Even as a nanny I ask for nappies and velcro. It's never been a problem. I've been very lucky with great families!

I'm a nanny from a nursery background I agree with the op pull ups are a pain. Definitely the parents saying they would never use would choose someone else etc, are definitely the ones who's never had to change more then one nappy at a time

Maud Pampers Baby Dry Pants are just nappies you pull on and they're the same price as regular nappies. Been out about 18 months now. They're a godsend!!!! X

I would have been glad to have this information to reference when dc were attending child care. It can be a very stressful time for first time parents so this will make it easier for everyone.

I think the 'pull ups' the OP is referring to are the new Pampers Baby Dry Pants that are the same price, you just pull them up. They are a god send for wriggly babies. And for me who is disabled and cannot wrestle my 2yr old!
If a childminder demanded I change back to regular nappies I'd be pretty annoyed! It's not up to the Childminder to decide what nappies my child wears! Would have to be a case of regular nappies for Childminder and the Pants type at home

I completely understand where you are coming from.
I think worded in a friendly way or as an FAQ would be fine, I wouldn't think of it as bossy.
I remember when my first dd was at nursery I didn't actually have a clue and felt like an idiot asking some simple questions. I would be happy and comforatable with a list covering the things like this.

Fair enough op, I take back the mean comment. Give and take is crucial. Good luck with your information pack

I would be fine with no laces and no unplanned early drop offs is fine.

Pull ups are a valid choice for parents to make during potty training so I wouldn't be happy at being told you don't support that.
Maybe alter it to say children not yet potty training would be preferred to be in nappies for quick easy changes but once potty training is under way pull ups are fine?

OP bends over backwards to help parents with emergency care, early starts, late finishes, forgotten lunch boxes, etc. All she asks in return is a few things to make life easier for their children and god forbid herself.

I do the same for my parents and they help me out in response. It's a partnership, not a dictatorship.