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CM CLUB: Im getting a tad sick of this !

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 10:32

mindee turned up this morning at 8.30......NOT 9.30 as agreed......has just been to toilet and while doing a wee, mindee said i've pooed as well...didnt realise, so very loose(sorry tmi!)...i asked if she has had a poorly tummy this morning at mummys??..yes..and a nanas at weekend!...so mum drops of knowing her dd is poorly and doesnt think to mention it

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 21/03/2007 16:42

i know its just as bad when your up and ready and they turn up 20 mins late..ah well...seems its everyone tho doesnt it....
new mindee's mum is very new to all this and has minimum hours each week, sometime needing more, so i said minimum is 12..she put him in last week for 5 as thats al she needed, but soon realised this week(i did keep telling her, although maybe i shouldnt?[wink) that she might as well use the hours so ive had him today 8 hours and hes been an angel..older mindee has really taken to him so no more lashing out today...so had a better day

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crace · 20/03/2007 21:34

Mine is always late, at least 10 minutes, but usually 30 minutes. And it's for a 7am start so I am up ready just in case for no reason! Not complaining, of course but it would be nice to have that extra time in bed

Sorry SS (tee) that you are having such trouble with it.

maximummummy · 20/03/2007 21:26

i don't suffer with early parents one of mine is always late once a whole hour i charge her of course but it's annoying as i'm really not a morning person !

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 20/03/2007 12:43

you may be right
today i tore home from taking dp to work so i could get dd to school and not be t=late for mindee..got dd to school 40 mins late! and trexting mum to say meet me at school..no sign so drove home and 10 mns later(20 mins after agreed drop off time) they arrived..i know traffic is bad hence my lateness but they live two mins up road and didnt evemn text to say they were late, i was stopping every ten mins to tel her how close i was

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maximummummy · 19/03/2007 22:19

maybe she mumsnets too & read your posts !!! it's very hard to be a hard faced buisness bitch though isn't it

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 22:00

i def need some!..was just so shocked she said it tho cos norm wouldnt have said sorry or anything?????

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looneytune · 19/03/2007 21:37

You sound just like me!!! 'oh.....it's ok'

Do they do assertiveness training for childminders???

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 19:42

'collect'

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 19:41

sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..mum rang tonight to vollect early(not much) ...got here paid her fees, asked how much extra it would be for this morning and sadi how sorry she was...yeah yeah...me says "oh its ok this once"...but i did get in about charging fees if early or late in future which will be in news letter and contract ammendment..no problem...then she said she was going to put my fee in bank herself tomorrow but didnt want to mess me about since she forgot the other week and how sorry she was for that.....again i was all doormat like and Oh sokay!!..but again i did tll her i narrowly escaped charges for overdrawn meaning all fees had to be paid on time..no problem.................so basically feel ive made a mountain from a molehill and feel guilty for thinking bad..although i do stand by my descision to start charging.
dp came down and said 'what happend to the hard faced business bitch from earlier??'[LOL

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looneytune · 19/03/2007 17:26

Glad could be of use

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 16:31

eeee, yer a marvel..ta CHICK

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looneytune · 19/03/2007 15:44

Well, I PERSONALLY prefer an amendment to contract but don't suppose it matters. I'll send you an amendment to contract that I've done for change of hours/extra day, in case it helps.

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 15:43

ah, so an 'ammendment to contract' form should be made up too???or would signature on bottom of that suffice?

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looneytune · 19/03/2007 15:40

Yep, you need to do that if it's not already in your contracts. Mine was in my contracts so this was more a reminder they will be charged type thing!

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 15:19

it will be thanks and you have phrased it very friendly but to the point, only thing i will add other than adjust is a signature at bottom so i can confirm they all agree!

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looneytune · 19/03/2007 14:41

Do whatever you want with it Just hope it's useful to you.

CarGirl · 19/03/2007 14:40

It just annoys me - some of the cm I know are too hot and inflexible on stuff like this but I do feel some parents just don't think/realise/see that it is a job - you don't cm because you feel like it - it's your profession etc but you do it for the money - just like they work for the money!

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 14:38

thanks cargirl, nice to hear parents can be as conciensious

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 14:37

thats fab Looneytune!
can i pinch and tweak it???

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CarGirl · 19/03/2007 14:36

Hello mindee mum here - I would def say something in your newsletter along the lines of my standard working hours are eg

8.30am - 5.30pm I am not available for work outside these times.

Should you wish to use me outside your contracted hours which are
9.30am - 5.30pm

(adjust for each child)

this is possible by prior arrangement at a charge of 125% of usual rate. If it occurs without prior arrangement of at least (24/48 hours) than it will be charged at a rate of 200%

I actually think ofsted insist this kind of thing is good practice check that out and if it is an ofsted requirement state that in your newsletter too.

That parent is taking the mick - I feel bad for turning up 5 minutes early to my cm! Also in extenuating circumstances you can waive the fees to those parents who genuinely don't mess you about.

HTH give you the confidence to do it!

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 14:31

LOL shoooshaa

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 19/03/2007 14:30

LOL katy44, i like you, you talk first and think later like [me LOL..me and dd will be hiding in playroom till big ben strikes!

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SHOSHAlee · 19/03/2007 14:26

Ok shall I spell it properlike this time StrawberryChick

Katy44 · 19/03/2007 14:25

Right, didn't think it would be easy but it would be so tempting!
Can you take the batteries out of your doorbell (I have no idea how they work!!) and then quite honestly say you didn't hear it? Oh no, cos then they'll bang on the door!
Of course you could do all the other 'grown up' suggestions on this thread

SHOSHAlee · 19/03/2007 14:25

SreawberryChick