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Au Pair seems to have had a personality transplant

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ConfusedMumDotCom · 28/01/2017 19:52

We have had our Au Pair for just over a year.

I was very clear in our ad and discussions with her before she joined as to what we needed. We wanted someone to be a part of the family, a big sister to our children - who were in full time nursery and Year 1 at school. My husband travels a lot and so I need help for 2.5hrs on Saturday mornings when he was out of the country (aprox 2 weeks away, 6 weeks home).

She arrived last year and fitted in well. We'd cook and eat together, be a family - the kids love her.

Then just after new year, she seems to have had a personality transplant. She refused to have the kids one Saturday morning when my husband was away, she goes out as soon as I get home and stays in her room when before we'd all watch tv together. She doesn't let us know when she gets in so I don't know if I can lock up the house.

I had to have a chat to her about letting me down on Saturday and she has ignored me ever since.

It is all very odd. Do I need to start looking for a new au pair??

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ConfusedMumDotCom · 28/01/2017 19:55

Sadly that's what I think I need to do.

It's just so strange. I'm reminded of when Kevin and Perry turned 13 - it was that sudden.

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MadHattersWineParty · 28/01/2017 19:54

Yes maybe, although she may already be looking for a new job, she doesn't sound very happy.

Did she go home for Christmas? Did this start since she came back?

ImperialBlether · 28/01/2017 19:53

Yes - once the respect has gone, it's time to move on.

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