I'm a nanny- worked for same family (single working mum, one child) three years in March, so have been pretty loyal and committed I think it's fair to say. Can count on my hand the number of sick days I've taken in that time. I'm punctual, flexible, work extra hours, cover overnights when boss is abroad etc etc.
My charge goes away in August and again at Christmas so I tend to take a large chunk of my holiday then. It's easier for my boss but not always totally ideal for me because they're both expensive months to go away anywhere, but I tend to suck it up, and take the odd three days leave here and there at other times.
Here's the rub.
On the 14th November LAST YEAR I mentioned that I'd like to go and visit my friend who's currently living in Barcelona. I suggested January (flights were cheap, I don't care about nice weather, just want to see my friend) boss says end of Jan might work but she'll have to confirm.
She didn't confirm. She just dodged it until the flights were too expensive and I just accepted it wasn't happening.
She then announces she's going on holiday with my charge in half term week- could I go then? No good for me- flights are pricey, my friend too busy that week so wouldn't see her much.
I've now suggested late March/early April. That's plenty of notice. Email gone unanswered. Whattsap message ignored. Will try and pin her down later but I'm pretty annoyed. I'm asking for about three days leave depending on the flights. I am not asking for the moon on a stick.
So my question is, how can I broach this with her (need to calm down a bit as I'm quite pissed off but I want to be assertive too) I don't think she's being fair- I don't think I should take my holiday only when it's most convenient for her- (it should be 50/50 I think but I'd settle for 30/70 as she has no partner or family in this country as back/up if I'm not there)
Any advice please- from parents and nannies- I'd appreciate it!