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CM club: should i phone social services?

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dmo · 23/02/2007 18:34

i know it always happens to me
and being a cm i cant bounce off anybody i am the key person the child protection officer of my setting.
anyway i have an 8yr old boy (quite grown up for his age) he lives with his mum and his uncle (uncle has problems has a mental age of 15yrs)
so the mum has a new boyfriend and has been with him 8 mths he lives in Kent (about 5 hrs drive away) mum goes down most weekends on her own to visit boyfriend and leaves her son with his uncle.
last weekend mum took son to kent and on monday she was really cross with him when she dropped him off because he had embrassed her (didnt ask what he had done)
anyway mum picked son up on monday night all smiles as she had just booked to go to america for 2 weeks in march with boyfriend without son.
she drops son off this morning and tells me uncle is picking son up from me tonight as she is going to france for the weekend with boyfriend.
this got me thinking as i know uncle works nights.
so i asked 8 yr old if uncle still worked at night and he said yes, so i said who looks after you at night and he said he stays at home alone (uncle works from 9pm till 6.30am) i asked what he does and he said he has to stay in bed.
now i know this is all hearsay from an 8 yr old boy but the way he told me its as if it happens alot.
do i take what a 8yr old tells me (after all uncle could have booked time off work, or they have a neighbour/friend come over to look after him)
i did try to talk to uncle when he picked the 8yr old up asking if he had booked time off work but he really is like a child (get more sence out of the 8yr old) so i didnt get very far

just tell me your veiws cant really talk to anybody about this

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jambomum · 27/02/2007 11:12

This is one of the most disturbing and upsetting things I have read on this website. What if the boy doesn't sleep - will the mother/uncle just keep giving more 'medicine' until he does. Calpol can overdose too.
You must pursue this further with police and ss. Also NSPCC, they should be told too.
I am so heartened to hear of a cm that is clearly doing a great job. (We had an awful experience with one and had to remove ds) so keep up the good work..

quietmouse · 27/02/2007 11:11

not trying to tell you what to do, but I really think as you have already started the ball rolling this morning and it is still fresh in the mind of the people you have spoken to, you should phone back this morning and demand to speak to someone in authority. Their response is just not good enough.

dmo · 27/02/2007 11:08

she goes on hols 8th March back on 24th March
feeling really dont know what i expected but its more than this

anyway i will phone police again on friday, i will wait till then
if nothing happens i will be phoning managers

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mumto3girls · 27/02/2007 11:05

I am appalled that SS are not interested! I would phone back, take their name and say you will write to their manager reporting their terrible lack of concern. Better still - stay on phone and speak to manager!!!

When is this fortnight holiday happening?

quietmouse · 27/02/2007 11:03

did you speak to the duty social worker? You could always phone back and say you are not happy with their response and want to speak to the manager?

ScottishThistle · 27/02/2007 11:03

Poor wee man, I hope he gets the help he obviously requires!

Sorry but I am going to judge the Mother, she's a selfish bitch!

dmo · 27/02/2007 11:02

told them the whole story but very unhappy with ss reply
told police whole story on friday aswel

does a child have to die b4 something is done?

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quietmouse · 27/02/2007 11:01

that is a disgrace. No wonder there are so many tragedies with abused children

if I were you I would phone the police back and also ss and demand to speak to the manager of children's services. That really is appalling. Make sure you tell them about all his past comments as well, and about the uncle's learning disability, not just the incident with the medicine.

dmo · 27/02/2007 10:59

yes spoke to class teather on friday and she said i must have all the facts b4 i phone ss but blow it i was to shocked at todays news to care.
might have a word again with all this new info
feels like nobody cares

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kittylette · 27/02/2007 10:59

id definatly ring SS, it sounds as though the uncle may not be competant to mind the boy during the 2 weeks anyway, add to that the fact he may be left alone during the night - hardly an ideal situation

StrawberrySnowflakes · 27/02/2007 10:59

"could have been calpol"!!..so dont they give a f*ck??..could have also been heroine!!!

StrawberrySnowflakes · 27/02/2007 10:58

that is appaling, i would ring back and ask to speak to someone superior, he is 8 FGS, are they going to let this one slip through the net too??!!!

moopymoo · 27/02/2007 10:57

this is awful dmo, have you tried the boys school? they might have more formal systems in place for what is obviously a child protection issue.

dmo · 27/02/2007 10:57

ss said it could be calpol and no they are not coming round
they said next time i am sure the child is being left alone i should phone police and they will investigate
i am not impressed i was shaking like a leaf on the phone

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 27/02/2007 10:56

on a whole new level, if he was 'knocked' out and there was say..a fire..he wouldnt have made it would he!

quietmouse · 27/02/2007 10:54

at 'special medicine to knock him out'

well done to you. Hopefully things will get resolved one way or another now

StrawberrySnowflakes · 27/02/2007 10:54

oh FGS, that poor child!..are ss coming round? have you spoke to the mum?, have you rang police? ..ermm..shit hun!..does the LO tell stories(i hope to god he does!) or do you think this is 100%

dmo · 27/02/2007 10:52

just phoned ss
boy came back today said he was left on friday and saturday (didnt mention the police) said his mum had got special medcine to knock him out which his uncle gave him
felt sick at this news so phoned ss and they told me to phone the police

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 27/02/2007 10:23

so was anything mentioned??..has little boy said anything or mum?

Aloveheart · 27/02/2007 09:19

That's good .

dmo · 27/02/2007 09:13

he came today mum was poorly yesterday will tell you details later just thought i would let everyone know he is ok

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sweetbean · 27/02/2007 08:28

hope everything is ok poor littel mite !!

StrawberrySnowflakes · 27/02/2007 08:20

do you have another contact for him??

can you ring police to see if anything was done at weekend?

shes prob still on holiday and poor child is prob still in bed

Aloveheart · 26/02/2007 21:03

oh dear. hope you hear something soon.

dmo · 26/02/2007 21:01

8 yr old not come in today (very unlike him) mums mobile is turned off

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