Our New Nanny Just Quit

Maybe it was a case of there being too many adults. Some nannies (like me) like to hit the ground running, not having much of a handover period.

Not sure what they mean by not being made welcome. Wonder what they were expecting.

Did she know your DH would be working from home every week when she took the job? Did your DH stay out of the way or is his office downstairs/was he popping in and out a lot? If the current nanny is heavily pregnant, was she telling the nanny to do a lot while she 'observed'? I'm just trying to think of a few reasons she may have felt unwelcome.

I have had a few jobs where I've wanted to quit after a day or two, when the job turns out being totally different to the rose tinted view given on interview. (Things like 'yes you can arrange activities throughout the day/have play dates etc, then being told on day one that actually can't socialise with nannies/can't go out for the whole day etc etc). I've normally stuck it out but always regretted it and left hating the job by the time I left.

I just think it's not very professional and very vague if tgat mskes sense. Be more precise: i have cincerns about xyz part of the role can we discuss? That sort of thing. She made it very personal, after one day.

We had our first nanny leave during settling in - it was a relief tbh as I didn't feel at all comfortable with her but was worried I was being too hasty. She was very experienced and was, I think, offended that she couldn't "manage" me and that I wanted some things done in a particular way.

Leaving after one day seems silly especially as she hadn't had a chance to get to know you better - sounds like you're better off without her.

Maybe she doesn't like parents working from home? I've heard nannies comment negatively about it at playgroups. I can see it makes their day a bit harder with repeated separations but I would think it's part of the job these days as more and more parents will be doing it.

How does your DH think the day went? How does your current nanny feel it went? I think perhaps a bit more input from you yesterday would've been helpful.

She must've had a really horrendous day to leave after just one day. She is clearly not the right person for the job.

I'd be interested in getting the original nanny's account of how it went.

Surely it depends how helpful the previous nanny is?

You wouldn't just put someone in an office and expect them to get on with it without some guidance,would you? Nothing to do with how experienced you are.

It sounds like the new nanny was not very experienced, she should have been able to pick up a lot of the information she needed from the other Nanny and felt able to ask you questions when needed, or to ask for time today to chat.
Did you Skype chat or have long face to face interviews with her before her trial so she was aware what was expected of her for the position?

Hope it goes better with the next applicant

I think it is ridiculous to quit a job like that, after one day, and probably you ard better rid. "Made to feel very unwelcome" - is she a bit inexperienced? I wonder if a permanent position cane through?

How involved was your dh during the day? Is he a sociable person? How did he think it went? It's hard starting a new nanny job especially with a 2 year old as they are set in their ways. I find it takes longer to bond with a 2 year old than if you've had them from being a baby (I usually do bond, it just takes a bit longer!) I would certainly give it longer than 1 day though. But I think you do know if you're going to click or not..

What does your current nanny say about how the day went? How much time did she spend talking to the new nanny about the job?

Your being at work should not have mattered but perhaps for this nanny she expected more of a welcome. Remember many moons ago, one of our nannies quitting after one day. In her case, she broke her wrist - and therefore quit - perhaps she had some other reason. Very difficult for you now. Good luck with getting a new nanny.

Tbh I think you do need a bit more input than what you have described. On the other hand she shouldn't have just texted.