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Nanny troubles

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Gwynethread · 23/11/2016 19:06

My Nanny used be chatty, warm and eager to see us. She would cook and really go above and beyond. Recently though she has started to become distant and almost monosyllabic in nature. The other day I noticed she was just sitting daydreaming on the sofa, obviously that's fine now and again but it is happening more and more frequently. I tried to bring it up in polite conversation but she just changes the subject before I can properly broach it. At the end of the day I want my old nanny back, she's like a different person. What should I do?

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PotOfYoghurt · 24/11/2016 11:06

Do you mean a grandmother?

Ohwoolballs · 24/11/2016 11:06

Oh! Is it your actual grandmother as opposed to a hired children's nanny?

Agree with optomist just have a chat and ask if she is feeling alright. Sit down with a cuppa and make it all about her, not a rushed "you alright?"

Ebb · 24/11/2016 11:05

You have never paid her?!!!! Shock Is she working for free or bed and board?

salsamad · 24/11/2016 11:04

Have I read that correctly - you have never paid her? Is she working for free? Even if she is living in and getting her room and board she should still receive a weekly wage....this smacks of exploitation!

Gwynethread · 24/11/2016 10:59

I have never paid her, she has always just helped out. Do you think I should bring up money? I am not sure if that would help, I think its more of an age thing as she is getting older now.

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Karoleann · 24/11/2016 10:37

OP - Can you think of anything that might be annoying her about her job? Typical things that nannies get annoyed about are not being paid on time, parents coming home late, house being in a mess from the night before when they arrive, dirty dishes in sink, being asked to do things that aren't in their job spec (like cleaning ovens), being asked to babysit at short notice.

or has anything changed about her job role recently.

If not, you just need to ask her if anything is bothering her as she doesn't seem as happy as she has been before. If she changes the subject, change it back again.

Optimist1 · 23/11/2016 19:15

There's nothing you've said in your OP that you couldn't say direct to her without damaging your relationship. Give it a try; I hope that she appreciates your concern and that you'll soon have your old nanny back!

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