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Knickers pulled down at childminder

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Glitterspy · 19/09/2016 18:38

DD 3.5 told me on the way home she had her knickers pulled down by cm's (year 1) son today. On Mondays the cm's assistant picks DD up from school and gives her tea until I pick her and baby DS up about 2 hours later. DD told me this incident happened while she was standing up watching tv, that he said (singsong voice) "I've pulled your knickers down" and that the cm then told him to "come with her". Apparently he didn't touch her bottom. The cm has not mentioned it.

I feel very angry about this. It happened to me at a similar age in the playground, little boys will be boys it seems but I still remember the humiliation and feeling of powerlessness, this really is something i never hoped my daughter would have to experience let alone in the safe childcare environment I thought I was placing her in.

A bit of an AIBU I suppose as I am tempted to call the childminder this evening and tell her that I won't be letting DD round again, as of next week she will be going to after school club instead.

BUT I'd prefer she was in a home environment with her brother - however not one where she experiences this kind of bother. Removing her also leaves us in a tricky position re school holidays as the long term plan was that DD would go to her then. Again I'm not keen if she is going to be left to watch tv while and have her knickers yanked.

Time to look for an alternative cm or even a nanny? Thoughts please.

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IzzyIsBusy · 19/09/2016 18:41

Erm children do silly things.

Sounds like the CM dealt with it by taking the other child away.
Not nice for your DD but not the CM fault either.

If you are not happy then remove her but i do TYABU.

StealthPolarBear · 19/09/2016 18:41

Though I suppose in y1 he might just be 18 months older than her

StealthPolarBear · 19/09/2016 18:40

Year 1 to a 3 year old?? Yes that's not good.
you asoo sound annoyed about the tv. I agree, probably time to look for something else

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