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i dismissed my nanny for stealing, now she wants a reference.

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birdie2shoes · 02/09/2016 15:07

I dismissed my nanny as she had been stealing from us. I said i wasn't going to prosecute her but i couldn't give her a reference. here we are a month later and an agency has left a message saying they're calling for a reference. what's the best thing to do here? refuse? tell the truth?

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oldlaundbooth · 02/09/2016 15:16

Tell the truth.

Unlockable · 02/09/2016 15:15

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superram · 02/09/2016 15:12

You are on dodgy ground if you put that she stole, in writing, without proof. I would say that she worked for you from x to y and to ring you for further feedback. At least people can then read between the lines.

gamerchick · 02/09/2016 15:12

Yeah tell the truth. Save another family.

Sgtmajormummy · 02/09/2016 15:11

Tell the truth. She's lucky she didn't get prosecuted and the agency need to know about the reasons for her leaving your employment. I'd do it over the phone in a clear but not-for-the-record way. Otherwise you'd be giving her a bad "reference" of sorts.

riceuten · 02/09/2016 15:11

If you can contact the nanny ask them if they would like

a) no reference
b) a reference that references their theft

The fact they are asking for a reference makes me suspicious they don't actually understand why they were given the push, I must say.

Tiggeryoubastard · 02/09/2016 15:10

Why are you even asking? Of course you tell the truth. Can't believe how hard faced she is actually.

Unlockable · 02/09/2016 15:08

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NotAPuffin · 02/09/2016 15:08

You have to tell the truth.

Poocatcherchampion · 02/09/2016 15:08

Tell the truth. Why wouldn't you?

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