Au pair took drugs. WWYD?

I think I would want to give her the benefit of the doubt. We most of us did stupid things in our teenage years.

im on the fence with this one

you need someone you can trust to look after your children

she did something stupid in her own time - sure we all have done that

i would give her another chance, make very clear no drugs at all, you will do random drug testing and again tho her own time partying till 6am on a friday/saturday night should be restricted

where did she get the drug from? friends?

Whether or not she can do what she likes as an adult, I wouldn't want someone who took drugs in my house, looking after my children.
It would be a deal breaker for me.

Lol no one is entitled to break the law what a ridiculous thing to say.

Yes, they are entitled to break the law if they choose.

FWIW, I do not have an issue with recreational drugs, provided that's what they are - recreational.

They are no worse than alcohol. Buying/taking drugs is illegal, but in my opinion only nominally.

People are entitled to break the law, heron? Really? Really?

I would keep her on.

People are entitled to do what they like in their spare time, including drugs. Assuming she's not taking anything whilst caring for your children, I would let this go.

I suspect she's had a fright in any case and would not be repeating the experience.

I've no moral objection to drug taking. However, the fact she chooses to get off her face the night before working and operate on a hang over shows she considers looking after your kids something she can do on autopilot and it's not a serious enough job that she needs to be on good form for. For that, I'd sack her

I really don't know what I'd do OP. I would find it very challenging to manage a person like this on my own - so, well done for that. It's stressful but it sounds like you're holding it together.

I don't think it's the first time either. The scene with the friends at the hospital would have been...well, maybe the deal breaker for me.

Who was even looking after your kids when you had to go meet her in the hospital? Do you really need that?

How much longer is she with you?

An Ecstasy come down is nothing like a hangover ! You can be talking days before you can function fully. You certainly aren't as alert as you need to be with children.

I think you should keep her. She made a bloody stupid mistake, but it sounds like that's set against several times when she's been sensible and reliable. And has no-one else parented while hungover? I certainly have. Is that worse (in terms of effectiveness at childcare) than having had Ecstasy the night before? (I don't actually know).

Teachers may well be taking drugs at the weekend, but nannies/childminders and au pairs who are in a situation where they are looking after your children unsupervised by anyone else, need to be completely beyond reproach.

Teachers and nursery workers generally have other colleagues nearby who would hopefully whistle blow if a child is being mistreated or neglected. When a au pair is at home alone with the children there isn't that safeguard.

There is no way on earth I would keep her. Refer to Dutchcourage post about taking E and the after effects.

She is not responsible enough to look after children, her judgment is totally off.

It's sad but she has fucked up massively, presumably you didn't go to your event as she was in hospital and now you are agonising and being inconvenienced because she's been out clubbing. That is the lifestyle of being a party girl and it makes you unreliable.

Don't be taken in she needs to go.

The au pair made a judgement call - a bad one.

Based on this, if there was ever an emergency situation with the child(ren) I would not trust her to make the appropriate/safe judgement call.

Harsh but true.

or her leaving kids with one of her friends while she picks one up.

or spending kitty money meant for food or trips

might mean one in a coat pocket or back pack though.

in the house with children is unacceptable.

You lot wouldn't want to know what your DC's teachers get up to on a weekend! It's their free time, personal choices. Ecstasy on a night out doesn't mean drug dealers coming round to the house!

Wow - I'm amazed how many people would give her a second chance. I wouldn't have someone in my house looking after my children who took recreational drugs. Its shows very poor judgement and as another poster brought up she may have drugs in her bedroom that the children could have access to.

Like most host parents we wouldn't host someone who even smoked.

OP - I really doubt that she is expecting to be kept on.

her free time is hers. provided she's mot hung over to fuck or still under the influence of drugs when in charge of the kids. especially if driving is involved.

no need to he a virgin. as long as guys aren't brought home. like drugs

Gosh, some people are very severe in condemning the AP. People are requiring that even her free time must be above reproach. I suppose there would also be an argument for her having to be a virgin

I'd give her a second chance.

I would probably give her a second chance if you really like her, but I would be concerned about her taking drugs 12 hours before looking after the kids. That either says something about poor judgement, or it could just mean she's never taken ecstasy before and didn't realise how long it would effect her for.