Advice needed! Basic question - do people doing a nanny share let each other know how much they are paying and if it is net or gross? seems like private info but how can I figure out my tax situation without knowing what the other family is doing?
Full story: We are very relieved to be starting with a wonderful nanny soon (our first time using a nanny). She'll be doing 50% of the week with us and reducing her time with another family she has worked with for about a year from full time to 50% with them. She asked us for 10 pounds net/hour. We signed up to Nannytax and they told us she needs to give them permission to split the tax code so that we aren't stuck with a huge bill.
She said today that the other family wants to do the tax separately. I'm not really sure what that means but I think it means they don't want to split the tax. Or maybe they have a gross agreement? I'm not sure what to do because while we can afford a nanny, it seems very unfair (and expensive!!!) for us to be stuck paying all/most of her tax.
Am I missing something? Nanny is super lovely and we want this to work out :-)