Not all CM's are bad. Most of us work hard, love our mindees, and take our profession seriously.

i think your cm is bad mannered

i am off this week but mindees have been over to play with my boys and had a lot new years eve (with parents)

its nice to be nice

Not implying all CM's are bad at all though, I know from many of the posts on here that it isn't the case at all. Just ours increasingly seems to be upsetting not only me but also SIL. Dropping my nephew home in a car with no car seat with son for example.

I'm sorry I can't ATM!! There is quite a history there!!

I just don't know. She wasn't there alone. She was there with hubby and son, watching tele. I wasn't nosing (honest gov!) you walk up to house opposite window.

I would be grateful that you were coming early with the cheque but would probably send my dh to the door, so as not to get involved in conversation!!! But everyone is different and maybe she see s a day off as just that, but would she walk past you in the street on a day off?

I'd just like to say the childminder I had for my son was perfect - I honestly could not fault her in anyway. She treated him and her other mindess like her own in everyway. HEr husband went flying up the career ladder and after the first year she certainly did not need the money and was far richer than us. She continuted to look after ds until we no longer needed her and carried on looking after her other mindess long after most would mainly based on them all being so much a big part of each others lives.

I wondered if that might be the case. It was a case of having a big row with DP to get him to drive me round. At least a text in reply at least acknowledging the cheque would have been nice. Next time she will just have to wait I'm afraid.

My CM is bloody fantastic. She's just brilliant with ds, amazingly flexible, and after a year of knowing her I'd class her as a good friend too. I totally trust and respect her opinions - as a fostermum she's brought up a lot more kids than I ever will. The day my kids get too old to be looked after by her will be a very sad one indeed.

My CM's great.

I think you just need to bear in mind that people post when they have a problem. Like someone else said, if you took Mumsnet as a microcosm of the world, you'd think everyone hates teachers, midwives, health visitors, husbands, and everyone else in the universe.

And that we all love Robin Hood, Guy of Gisburn or Boden.

im in total agreement with lmg, actually i think id have been quite cross being disturbed on new years day!

FFF - i think it would have been polite to call or text to ask if she minded you dropping the cheque round as it was her day off. It was good that you wanted to make sure she got her money but she could have been nursing her hangover and not felt like seeing clients that day - i know i wouldnt have liked to open to door feeling rough etc i like to have my work hat on when i see clients which means i look presentable, with a cheery smile and chatter.

I love my childminder and so does DS which is really what counts.

But I do at the moment have a thread called" I am so so annoyed with my childminder" but then we are all human.

I get annoyed with my Mum sometimes and would post on here about but 99% of the time she is the best. Thats life.

reasons for not answering door..i am eating dinner, been drinking, not properly dressed, feel i look a sight, don't want to do work chat or combination of the above (i am not a childminder)

I had a terrible expereince with a CM but I don't assume all CM are bad. I am however wary of using one as you can imagine.

Sorry. I am totally baffled by my cm. Ds adores going, but we have had issues recently. I wondered if it being her day off means it is appropriate for her to not bother opening door on what is, in a way a work related item. Even though I felt I was doing it (taking her the cheque) in her interests and took us out of our way. I'm just trying to ascertain whether it was wrong of me to rack up on CM's doorstep, admittedly with only intention to hand over cheque, on her day off (new years day).

bit confused by that fff?
why would you not want to answer the door?

Cna I ask a quick query actually? If on the 27th you text to ask for your money when not C/M the child in question till mon 8th, and the person turned up with cheque on new years day evening, otherwise another week wait for money, would it be appropriate not to answer the door even though you know the person can see you sat there in the lounge??!

It was complete coincidence, honest!!

Actually, it is one of minding parents who introduced me to Mumsnet, but she is a very infrequent poster. I think I will give her a bit of a nudge and see what happens (but then you'll never believe it's real).

lol @ the prisoner!!!

Wow! That's spooky!!!