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CM Club: Taken for granted?

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SnapD · 19/12/2006 22:35

Today my mindees mum said "You won't mind if XX stays late on Friday will you?"

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TheOriginalXENA · 23/12/2006 08:14

Hope you had a fab night and good for you sticking to your guns

StrawberrySnowflakes · 22/12/2006 19:41

poor husband being married to her!, hope you have a fab night, have an extra glass to compensate for the stress!

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SnapD · 22/12/2006 18:02

He turned up at 5:15 - apparently Mum had said It was fine on Monday - but I had caused such a fuss - she phoned him today & told him to leave early

I felt sorry for him as he had to get out of work early with no notice - but I wasn't giving in

Off out to eat see ya later

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TheOriginalXENA · 22/12/2006 13:35

'fu**ing liberty' ->

StrawberrySnowflakes · 22/12/2006 12:49

what did he say?..your dh?
how did she take it?..what a mare, making you all stressed at christmas

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SnapD · 22/12/2006 12:25

I don't have his work number

She says he will text her if he is going to be late.....& she will pick up

DH had a word with her too

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TheOriginalXENA · 22/12/2006 12:07

what a cheek did she anything when she dropped mindee of this morning?

What did you say km?

Katymac · 22/12/2006 12:03

Sorry that was rude...

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 22/12/2006 11:48

bet you are, did you ring the father?..think thats the best bet

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SnapD · 22/12/2006 09:16

Really stressing about tonite

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ProfYaffle · 21/12/2006 12:52

It amazes me that people treat CM like this, they wouldn't do it to a nursery! DD's nursery has been empty this week with parents keeping their lo's off to be with older siblings on holiday.

I totally agree about charging a late fee, at dd's nursery it's about £10 for every 5 mins - needless to say, the parents are always on time.

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SnapD · 21/12/2006 12:40

She knows - she doesn't care

I trued again this am "I will talk to Dad and make sure he gets there on time....."

Except he won't

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snowfunwhenyoureknackered · 21/12/2006 12:37

it's really hard isn't it.

I'm in the same business (childcare) and people do try to take advantage of you

Maybe we seem like easy targets cos we are usually kind hearted and quite soft!

have you spoke to her again yet?

does she know you are going out at 6pm?

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SnapD · 21/12/2006 12:11

I feel so impotent & frustrated

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santasweetdreamer · 21/12/2006 07:06

SnapD, I'm sorry but why are you worrying about being unproffessional when she's treating you like shit?

She's walking all over you

BuffysMum · 20/12/2006 21:24

Yes but if you don't what is going to happen to your night out? If you ring the emergency numbers are they local enough to come pick up quickly. Another idea suggest that as you are leaving the house at 6pm would it help her out if you dropped child elsewhere?

I guess in the new year you should renew contracts and stipulate a very high late collection fee, I'm sure they will be very much more obliging in future.

If my CM told me she had to be somewhere I'd try to get there early to allow for pontential tantrums/filling in on days events because something unusual etc had happened.

Send her to me, I'll thump her!

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SnapD · 20/12/2006 21:17

I am tempted....but it's so unprofessional

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BuffysMum · 20/12/2006 21:14

SnapD yes ring her emergency numbers that is what they are there for!

Actually I'm tempted to say if you can do without the money inform all your parents that you are only working until 1pm that day and apologies for the short notice something has come up.

bambi06 · 20/12/2006 21:10

can you contact father and talk to him directly as she might not pass the mesage on to him tha tyoure going out and wont be able to look after x after this time etc? i would jus tto make sure..and stick to your guns.say youve got tickets to somewhere and it starts at blah blah blah etc so they can tbe late

LoveMyGirls · 20/12/2006 21:00

of course you should ring the emergency numbers if shes late, you have specifically told her you need to leave at 6pm - not 5 past 10 past so if shes late you will def be late. if it were me i'd say i've been thinking about friday and i was hoping you could arrange a back up person to collect xxx on fri night as we will be leaving at 6pm on the dot so if you are even 5 mins late there will not be anyone here to have your xxxx, any other time i could be flexible but this something i really cannot afford to be late for.

Obviously you will need time to get ready so tell her your sister/ aunt is stopping by for 10mins to do your hair/ nails (something) but as they are also on their way out they can't wait around.....

or you could say you have decided to shut early on friday as all your other mindees are going home early, is there a gran/ aunt that could pick up xxx so you can get a few last min things done before xmas - a bit cheeky of you but as she has no problem being cheeky why should you? maybe then she will realise how out of order she is being?

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SnapD · 20/12/2006 20:50

I'm out with DH and my child is going to her nana's at about 4 so she is well out the way by 6...when we go out

I think she is hard faced and cheeky and I think she will just let him be late

I am seriously thinking about ringing all her emergency numbers if she doesn't turn up

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BuffysMum · 20/12/2006 20:48

Another thought - will your dh be there to look after mindee, or however is looking after you children? Perhaps make sure they know that if they are late then you will not be looking after them it will be x and if they have a problem with that then to ensure they are on time! I just wouldn't treat my CM like this it's so out of order!

BuffysMum · 20/12/2006 20:46

SnapD make sure you charge a very high late collection fee. What is it at the moment? I know one CM who charges I think £5 per 15 minutes!!!!! Think she only charges it to persistent p takers though!

StrawberrySnowflakes · 20/12/2006 20:41

all you can do is re iterate it to her, maybe give her a 'memo' type thing "to all parents"...merry christmas blah blah blah, i close for christmas xtime and re open x date x time.??other than that dont know?..shes sounds like a mare, knowing you wont chuck her ds out..id ring the husband too and stress how important it is he be on time.