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nanny needing fertility treatment please help

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pinkdaffodil23 · 02/01/2016 18:45

Hi lovelies I really need some help and I wasn't to sure where to get opinions. I was hoping someone here might be able to help me.
I'm a nanny to 3 children 2 are at school 1 is not :)
I have been with the children now as a full time nanny for 4 years.
I'm in a situation at the moment and I'm not to sure what to do. We have recently found out that I have polycystic ovaries, after trying for a baby for the last year. I'm on fertility treatment to make me ovulate and try and help us get pregnant as I don't have a cycle on my own. On the treatment I have to go back for scans each cycle starting at day 12, how many scans I have depends on how I respond. So far I've not had to say anything to my boss cause but I'm not starting another cycle and am back to the scans in a weeks time and I'm not sure how I'm going to play it this month.
I was adamant I wasn't going to say anything, shes always said that im not allowed to have children until her children are all at school, but I don't want to wait that long, although I might not even be pregnant by then depending how I respond to this treatment. If I get pregnant I plan or returning to work with baby obviously I'd have to discuss that with my boss but I'm 95% sure that she would agree.
My predicament I now have is whether I say anything to her or not? I don't no what to do for the best. I don't want to tell her what's going in and her go distant and it ruin the atmosphere but I'm struggling to keep making up reasons. I have a scan a week on Monday, after that I'll need a couple more this cycle but I don't know dates or times until each appointment before which makes it really hard.
please help

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Diggum · 02/01/2016 18:51

She really has no right to know the details, and certainly not to dictate to you when to have children!

I would say you're going through some medical issues at the moment that require frequent appointments and you'd rather not go into it in detail. The team are fitting you in as and when so you don't get much notice of the appointments, so inconvenient for everyone, apologies but this is just how it is etc.

If she's a decent human being she'll empathise and try to accommodate you.

Best of luck Flowers

AyeAmarok · 02/01/2016 18:50

shes always said that im not allowed to have children until her children are all at school

I hope she is joking?

Artandco · 02/01/2016 18:50

Can't you just say you have some scans due at hospital over the next few months, nothing serious but they want to check an ongoing thing to make sure all a fine as it should be. You don't have to actually specify what the scans are for do you?

You just need to say you need time off

PotteringAlong · 02/01/2016 18:49

She is in no way allowed to tell you when you can and cannot have children! You need to speak to her about the time off you need though.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/01/2016 18:47

shes always said that im not allowed to have children until her children are all at school does she say this in a jokey way or is she really awful? Because that is a terrible thing to say to someone seriously.