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Would you expect me to do this?

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R2D2candy · 04/11/2015 13:30

I'm an au pair and the family I work has been away out of London for a long weekend since Friday.

On Monday the boiler was acting up and Tuesday it broke down completely. So Mum has a new baby and a toddler decided to stay where she was and not come home until it's fixed since there is no central heating or hot water.

Today I got a text asking me to Travel out of London to help her with the children with the kids for one day. She has family where she is and she doesn't want to have to cope. Nor has she offered to book a ticket for me to go to them. I think she's really just being unreasonable. At one point she wanted me to stay in cold house to do the weekly cleaning and then said oh well it didn't make sense until the weekend. She's expecting me travel out of London and then come back on Friday to do the cleaning when she gets back.
I'm trying to think of polite way to say no but I just think this is the final straw with this job and I'm going hand in my notice on Monday.

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R2D2candy · 04/11/2015 14:54

Exactly and it's not comfortable to go to someone else's house to work for afternoon and stay over till morning. It would be different if they were in a holiday home.

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Artandco · 04/11/2015 14:47

As your an au pair not a nanny I assume your only contracted to do say 4 hrs a day. Therefore it does seem too much if you will spend say 2 hrs travelling there and 2 hrs back as that's doubled your work time

LemonBreeland · 04/11/2015 14:44

Why is it unreasonable to travel for one afternoon? Unless it is an 8 hour train journey or something.

R2D2candy · 04/11/2015 14:42

I'm not at the house. I'm staying with friends and I think it's unreasonable to ask me to travel to go somewhere for one afternoon and then get back on Friday.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 04/11/2015 14:29

Your job is to help look after the children so yes not unreasonable to ask you to go where mum is

But she should pay for your ticket upfront or check You have enough money and refund you once there

No point her coming home to cold house with kids so makes sense for her to stay

Assume when she comes home she will sort out someone to repair the boiler

Do you want to stay in a cold house ?

LemonBreeland · 04/11/2015 13:34

I don't think it is unfair to ask you to go to wherever the children are to help with them, as surely that is your job. Is hse expecting you to do it at your own cost? That is wrong obviously, but other than that it doesn't seem entirely unreasonable.

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