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Nanny's parking ticket - should i pay?

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balancingact · 05/12/2006 14:09

she got a parking ticket when taking my dd to nursery. she has been with us for 3 months and has been really lovely. should i offer to pay for this ? will she be expecting me to? i just don't want to set a precedent.....what is fair?

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balancingact · 07/12/2006 22:56

hahaha, i like your post bossykate! for a while there i was thinking if i was seriously lazy as i wouldn't consider walking it myself!

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bossykate · 07/12/2006 12:12

oh come on! from clapham south to the old town is a good 15 mins. then from the old town down north street to wandsworth road is another 15 mins. i'd say it would be a good 40mins walk!

uwila · 07/12/2006 12:04

Oi Lisa, how the heck are you? In the new job yet? How are the kids? How are you?

lisalisa · 06/12/2006 22:30

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hatwoman · 05/12/2006 22:36

read the thread properly and agree you should pay it and advise her from now on to get a p&d ticket. have also had a strange vision in my head of uwila and cod going head to head. scarey.

hatwoman · 05/12/2006 22:32

if she parked illegally because she left late because of some unavoidable work thing then yes I'd pay it this time, but work out together how to avoid it in future. I'd also consider paying it if she's new to the area and didn;t realise (perhaps a bit more grudgingly) but if it was something she could and should have avoided (eg by leaving time to park legally further away) then no. or I might be soft and go halves.

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balancingact · 05/12/2006 22:26

bossykate, not to worry, elm park wasn't one of them. the real swing factor for me was that her closest friend was in Bringing up Baby.
SueW, not a question of fitness of the nanny at all. Believe me, with my DD, that would be a real test as a) she wants to walk most of the time - and that will be too long for her to go and back (and still enjoy nursery!) and remember i have an 8 month old as well - so a bit concerned re DD walking and nanny pushing pram through old town and clapham park road where it can get pretty busy. Add the winter months and rain, and absolutely no way.

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SueW · 05/12/2006 19:10

Not too much of a hike surely - not more than 20-25 mins walk, tops, for a fit, young nanny? (I used to live near Wandsworth prison, off Trinity Road, and hike up to Clapham Junction every day rather than Wandsworth Common station - Zone 2 rather than 3 and lots more choice for trains.)

bossykate · 05/12/2006 18:59

btw - dd s/be going to elm park free for all the recommendations i've given!

bossykate · 05/12/2006 18:54

i'd call it a bit of a hike anyway

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bossykate · 05/12/2006 18:38

that is a fair old step and w/o convenient bus route. i would think parking is a mare round there too. btw, elm park nursery on clarence ave is much nearer where you are and you wouldn't have to p&d for drop off. pls tell me it wasn't one of the dirty ones you visited! dd goes there and ds before her and it has always been clean imho!

uwila · 05/12/2006 16:31

Cod, I will not look you in the eye. You scare me.

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balancingact · 05/12/2006 16:29

thanks for the advice girls, i will pay it this time and tell her now that we shall P&D - i haven't been giving her p&d tickets - tbh, it just never occurred to me - as my DD has been going to that nursery since jan and this is the first time it happened - so nearly a year!
oh bossykate, it's Bringing up Baby - off silverthorne road. i don't mind saying!
Normally, i agree with bus, but i have a 9 month old (very fat son, and i don't really and a phil and ted that is not comfortable most times for both of them - and with the weather being what it is, i would rather she just drove. We live near clapham common/south end, which locals would know will be a bit of a walk. Choice of nursery was due to a best mate of DD who goes there, for those curious why i didn't choose something locally (oh and the fact that the 2 i visited were quite dirty - maybe just a bad day/time when i was there so not really fair, but there you go!).

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ParanoidSurreyHousewife · 05/12/2006 15:53

Surely you would know whether you have been reimursing her for daily P&D tickets? If you haven't then I think that you should pay. In any event you seem to be very unsure as to what you expect your nanny to do, so I suggest that you ensure that you have a clear policy. If you were with her and she didn't P&D and you didn't comment then I would suggest that she sees that to be acceptable to you.

twelvedaysofchristmas · 05/12/2006 15:46

Was she driving your car or hers? Obv if it's yours you want it sorted asap.

Out of kindness, I would offer to pay half, and find out if there is anywhere she can legally park nearby, so you know it won't happen again. Therefore there will be no precedent.

WonderCod · 05/12/2006 15:41

UWILAA

LOOK ME IN TH EYE

NO

RTKangaSANTAMummy · 05/12/2006 15:41

uwila

Has she just arrived in UK or is she british?

Cos she may not realise what the rules are about P&D

Also what do the other nannies/parents who go to the nursery do?

Do they P&D or chance it?

What happens at pick up?

IMHO unless you have given her money for the P&D before this happened then it is your responsibility to pay cos otherwise how would she have been paying for it???

I think it is a traffic warden who had walked into the carpark and realised it was a drop off time and so targeted the parents etc. as easy prey.

bossykate · 05/12/2006 15:35

clapham wardens take no prisoners. i got clamped once while i was visiting the doctors surgery. i was 8m pregnant at the time and blubbed solidly until the bloke came to release me - he didn't know where to look! but it was a fair cop - i'd chanced it and got caught. think if you need to pay to drop off then you should give the nanny p&d money as part of her "kitty" for the week as others have said. i think a 50/50 split this time with instructions to p&d in future...

is it really too far to walk?

which nursery is it?

uwila · 05/12/2006 15:25

LittleSarah, the usual thing would be for the employer to pay for the pay and siplay tickets for sure. It might come out of kitty of weekly spending cash, but it wouldn't come out of the nanny's pocket.

I think I agree with Kanga (hey, first time for everything). If you explicity instructed or even advised nanny not to bother with the pay and display ticket, then you should pay the ticket. However, if you explicity told her that she should get a ticket, then she she pay the ticket. If you didn't say either way and she took it upon herself not to get a ticket, then I'd say 50/50 would be a suitable split to ensure it doesn't happen again.

Also, I wonder, is driving the most appropriate means of transportation to the nursery? Do you live more than a mile from the school? Could they walk? Take the bus? My nanny travels by bus anywhere in greater London for £55 per month (which of course I pay).

LittleSarah · 05/12/2006 14:54

Well I don't how it works but would you pay for the pay and display tickets if the nanny is taking dd to nursery? And if you haven't given her money or discussed it then I would think you should probably pay it.

Twiglett · 05/12/2006 14:53

um if she's been told not to buy a parking ticket by either you or previous nanny then yes you should pay for it

I think you should pay for it personally and then decide for yourself whether you want to gamble on her not getting another one or tell her to buy parking tickets .. in that case you'll probably have to make sure she has the right time every time

oh and if its pay and display and she really was gone a minute or 2 then you can argue that she was going to the pay box to get a ticket / or to get change to get a ticket

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